Finally Introducing myself

[datapirate]

Hi! I'm DP, and I'm a Cisgender Heterosexual 34m (almost 35) (he/him) and I came here seeking advice on the poly relationships corner.

I'm an engineer, and I travel all over the country building and fixing equipment.

I've been happily married for 9 years (together 14), with 2 kids. My wife is starting to explore an additional potential relationship. So I found this place for support and understanding.

I'm an INFJ Scorpio with Pure-OCD, mild ADHD, and an Avoidant Attachment style. I think that covers all the basics.

I grew up Independent Baptist in the south, but am now pretty agnostic with religious scarring? ;-)

Nice to meet everyone!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings datapirate,
Welcome to our forum, now it's official. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Just curious, would you describe yourself as Dismissive-avoidant, or Fearful-avoidant? Either way, you are very welcome on this site, and I hope it has been helpful to you so far. I have some OCD myself, and some continuous anxiety. And I'm a Scorpio. I have a strong religious past, but for about 15 years now have been an atheist. I don't mean to carry on about me me me, I just mean that you and I seem to have some common ground. Glad to have you with us!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[datapirate]

Greetings datapirate,
Welcome to our forum, now it's official. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Just curious, would you describe yourself as Dismissive-avoidant, or Fearful-avoidant?

Dismissive Avoidant. I found that this article most accurately describes my attachment style

Either way, you are very welcome on this site, and I hope it has been helpful to you so far.

It has!

I have some OCD myself, and some continuous anxiety. And I'm a Scorpio.

Traditional OCD? Or Pure-OCD? I have very few physical compulsions, but find that I can't stop going down the rabbit hole on others. Possibly how I ended up here to begin with.

Do you take meds for it? After going through the gauntlet of a variety of meds (and a myriad of sometimes good sometimes bad side effects) I landed on Remeron (Mirtazipine) and it changed my life for good in so many ways. It gave me a "healthy" view on a lot of things instead of just being stuck in a cycle. I don't regularly take it anymore unless I or my wife recognizes some of my signals. Then I'll take it for awhile again to regain the "healthy" view.

Anxiety sucks, I'm sorry.

I have a strong religious past, but for about 15 years now have been an atheist. I don't mean to carry on about me me me, I just mean that you and I seem to have some common ground. Glad to have you with us!

I wouldn't go so far as to call myself an atheist, but I'm probably not too far away eithe

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

Thanks! It's the internet, so I typically don't get too upset ;-)

Thanks for the "Official" welcome!

 

[kdt26417]

Hi DP,

The main thing I am currently taking is Zyprexa. For awhile, I also took Xanax, but now it's just Zyprexa (and Metformin). You can read more about my diagnoses and meds in one of my blog posts. I do not know what kind of OCD I have, I don't think it's an extreme kind, but I sometimes do go down that rabbit hole.

Thanks for the article on your attachment style. I probably have anxious style, or disorganized (fearful-avoidant). From the article on your style, I gather that your parents "raised you to be tough." This could have both advantages and disadvantages.

For awhile I considered myself agnostic. Then I decided to call myself an atheist. I only hold out about a 1% likelihood that God (and much more importantly, an afterlife) exists. So, close enough. Well, that's all I have to say for the moment. I look forward to reading your future posts.

Regards,
Kevin T.