First poly relationship

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rick1310

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Hi all,

As most will say, I am new here and to polyamory in general. I just wanted to take a moment and share my story/situation with others as the town we live in is very small, very conservative and very anti anything other than traditional monogamous.

Myself and the two others involved, one being a VERY good friend I have known for over 20 years and the second being his wife, are all in a first time poly relationship. I live in their home, sleep in their bed and participate in ALL family activities as if I were an existing family member. Which I have in a way been since before we became "involved".

We had been intimate for many years before, but after my wife of 13+ passed away, they were basically my only family that I could truly talk to. In July of last year, I came to visit for a little time away from a very stressful time in my life and we decided that we would try on a trial basis to begin this relationship.

After almost 8 months, it is like this is what was always supposed to be. We are all extremely happy with each other. It has fallen into what any monogamous relationship would. I am not sure on how to elaborate more because, as I said, I am very new to this.

We would love to connect to more people within the community as well. We are not looking for partners, just like minded friends.
 
Good for you, I am glad it's working out so well.

My condolences on your loss of your wife. Glad you have a support system. We have another male member here who is also in a MFM V after the loss of his wife.
 
Hi there - welcome and Happy New Year. It sounds like you are in a good place to be, after your loss. I am curious, though - the way you described your partners sounded more like a triad to me than a vee. Since you mentioned the husband first, I assumed you are intimate with him. But now that I re-read your post it sounds more like it started out as a quad before your wife passed away, but now is a vee? So, it's not clear to me whether you three are all intimately involved with each other, or if you are only sexual with one of them. Not asking to be nosy, but just so we understand your arrangement. Thanks!
 
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Sorry for the confusion. No we were not a quad. My wife knew that i was intimate with my current female partner but we were not in a relationship other than sexual at the time. I am not sexually active with him. We share intimacy yes, but are only active with the female in our vroup. If that makes sense.
 
Hello, and Welcome!

I am the female in our cohabitating MFM Vee - we consider ourselves a family unit and function as such. The boys are best friends (for several years before I met Dude). We share a home, bed, finances and all attend most family gatherings together. Sounds like you all have a good thing going.:)
 
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