First timer, new and clueless

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quirkyandkind

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Hi all! I am a 30 year old female in the US, new and clueless to this whole lifestyle

Friends of mine, a married couple, approached me about this not too long ago and here I am trying to learn more about all of this.

My apologies if I come across as naive or ignorant about all of this…it’s just because I am 🤣

Looking forward to looking around and engaging with people.
 
Hi there!

I’m also very new, but that’s exciting! I love learning new things. I have so many questions, but the mods will be along shortly to point you towards a bevy of helpful resources, so I’ll try and stick to being nosy.

I really want to know what your friends said 🤭
 
It was my friend that approached me about her and her husband exploring a Polyamorous lifestyle and that she adored the relationship her husband and I and that she felt there could possibly be mutual interest there. She didn’t pressure me, nor was she presumptuous, it was a very sweet and genuine conversation.

Her husband and I do have a connection and have a lot of shared interests so it is definitely something I’ve noticed and felt myself. Nonetheless, this was all still a huge shock to me. But also flattering and I loved the trust she placed in me to share and discuss this
 
That sounds like a lovely, loving intro to the concept! I’m happy you have such kind, generous people in your life.

I met my GF on a non-traditional-relationship-friendly dating app, and we while we were both open to a more serious relationship, we weren’t initially looking. I found the transparent honesty that is required for this sort of thing to work to be so refreshing and genuine that she blew past my defenses, and building trust was like falling off a horse. And her husband is a rad dude and we’re getting along like gangbusters too. Sometimes you just get what you deserve.

I hope you find what you need, regardless of how you decide to go (and that you keep us updated)!
 
I love that for you and agree. The openness and raw honesty that is needed in this sort of thing is a great thing and I think would make connection building all the more genuine and sincere.

Love how you and your gf met and am very grateful for my friend to approach me in such a sincere and trusting way, made what could be a very awkward conversation anything but awkward
 
quirkyandkind said:
I love that for you and agree. The openness and raw honesty that is needed in this sort of thing is a great thing and I think would make connection building all the more genuine and sincere.

Love how you and your gf met and am very grateful for my friend to approach me in such a sincere and trusting way, made what could be a very awkward conversation anything but awkward
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Yes! I got to be vulnerable and never felt judged harshly or found wanting or anything that had so jaded me for so long. I couldn’t believe it. Still can’t some days, but it’s still early ;)

It definitely takes a lot of work and honesty is not always comfortable, but if you’re into that sort of introspective stuff, it’s such a satisfying place to explore. All the stars. Do recommend. Thinking about moving here.
 
I love that side of it..the introspection required, the full understanding of oneself to be able to lean into a place such as this. That all makes it very intriguing and interesting.

I feel like there is a real sincerity in a connection that can be built with this kind of thing. At least these are all thoughts in my mind and keeping me open and curious
 
Greetings quirkyandkind,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I'll be happy to answer any questions you may have, it is okay to be a beginner, we all had to start somewhere. It sounds like your friend was very sincere, she would like you to have a relationship with her husband.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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