I'm a 20 male. This has been going on for a while now. I really like this one woman at work but I had no idea she was with another women. But she still flirts with me. Her friend also likes me too a bit, because usually when I look at her she looks at the other woman I'm interested in. And one time her friend said hi to us both when she left one time. So, what I'm not sure about is that the women I'm interested in still flirts/likes me but is also with another woman. I'm just a bit confused. Can you guys help me out and give me some understanding? it's also been a while since this has happened.
Flirting stage with two women, not sure
- Thread starter Deer
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It's just flirting.
If you want to go on a date with someone, ask them.
If that person is available to date, they might say yes. If they say no, but continue flirting and it makes you unhappy, tell them to dial back the flirting.
Life lesson: we need to teach other people how to treat us. That includes using your words.
If you want to go on a date with someone, ask them.
If that person is available to date, they might say yes. If they say no, but continue flirting and it makes you unhappy, tell them to dial back the flirting.
Life lesson: we need to teach other people how to treat us. That includes using your words.
Hi Deer,
Polyamory is all about communication. You need to talk to these two women and let them know you're interested. As for the woman who is with another woman, she is still flirting with you, so just come out and ask her if she is available. Exchanging glances (who's looking at whom) is fun and intriguing, but at some point you have to talk, and ask some frank questions.
My 2¢,
Kevin T.
Polyamory is all about communication. You need to talk to these two women and let them know you're interested. As for the woman who is with another woman, she is still flirting with you, so just come out and ask her if she is available. Exchanging glances (who's looking at whom) is fun and intriguing, but at some point you have to talk, and ask some frank questions.
My 2¢,
Kevin T.
All right. Thanks to you and the other commenter too.
This is a genuine question: if she is with another woman, why would she still be interested in me (someone else)? I think I might want to ask her out next week or the week after. I just hope all goes well for me when I do.
Bobbi
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Some people are just flirts and don't even know they are doing it. I would not assume anything about who is seeing whom, etc. Ask out the one you'd like to go out with. If you get a date, then you can clarify any assumptions you have made. If not, then you know the flirting was not intentional.