Hi. We are at present a triad. It is Me (J, the husband), S (wife) and P (S's bf/husband). We are 51, 45 and 41 respectively. I will write mostly on our journey, as in J&S' and a bit about P since he has come into our life only over the last year.
We have been together for 22 years, of which 20 as a married couple. We have 2 kids, 20 and 17. We embarked on our non-monogamous journey about 11 years ago. This was mainly because S had a much higher sex drive than me. We started by going to swing clubs and doing discrete MMFs on vacations. All of these meets were one-offs.
In the last 2 years or so, S was not content with the one-offs and wanted more emotions as well as life interests coming into relationships. Part of this came from within and part of it came from her meetings with other poly people and reading on it.
Last year in May S met P at her girl friend's place when I was out of town. They hit it off really well. P was going through a divorce then and was obviously disturbed. Over the next few months their relationship blossomed. I have not seen S so happy and emotionally and sexually content.
As for me, I was the one who suggested opening up our marriage early on when she was sexually not content with me. We mostly did MMFs but at times we's play with couples also. A few times when travelling alone I had one-offs with women but S was always in the know (either before or immediately after). She had a few one offs in similar situations too. Interestingly, apart from a few minor situations we were both fine with it.
Coming back to S's relationship with P, I fully understand what S wanted and also have full faith in her ability to love 2 men. I am potentially poly too - had a very short relationship with a friend's wife but the friend was not willing to open up his marriage so I backed off.
To cut a long story short, P will hopefully be moving in with us later this summer. Our kids have been told and after a lot of explanation and some issues they understand and are on board with it. P and I get along real well and he and our son are on great terms too. We have worked out a lot of the financial and living arrangements but I am sure a lot of issues will crop up once he moves in. All 3 of us are however determined to make it work. Let's see! Hope this suffices as an introduction. Me and S are excited about learning from and contributing to this forum.
We have been together for 22 years, of which 20 as a married couple. We have 2 kids, 20 and 17. We embarked on our non-monogamous journey about 11 years ago. This was mainly because S had a much higher sex drive than me. We started by going to swing clubs and doing discrete MMFs on vacations. All of these meets were one-offs.
In the last 2 years or so, S was not content with the one-offs and wanted more emotions as well as life interests coming into relationships. Part of this came from within and part of it came from her meetings with other poly people and reading on it.
Last year in May S met P at her girl friend's place when I was out of town. They hit it off really well. P was going through a divorce then and was obviously disturbed. Over the next few months their relationship blossomed. I have not seen S so happy and emotionally and sexually content.
As for me, I was the one who suggested opening up our marriage early on when she was sexually not content with me. We mostly did MMFs but at times we's play with couples also. A few times when travelling alone I had one-offs with women but S was always in the know (either before or immediately after). She had a few one offs in similar situations too. Interestingly, apart from a few minor situations we were both fine with it.
Coming back to S's relationship with P, I fully understand what S wanted and also have full faith in her ability to love 2 men. I am potentially poly too - had a very short relationship with a friend's wife but the friend was not willing to open up his marriage so I backed off.
To cut a long story short, P will hopefully be moving in with us later this summer. Our kids have been told and after a lot of explanation and some issues they understand and are on board with it. P and I get along real well and he and our son are on great terms too. We have worked out a lot of the financial and living arrangements but I am sure a lot of issues will crop up once he moves in. All 3 of us are however determined to make it work. Let's see! Hope this suffices as an introduction. Me and S are excited about learning from and contributing to this forum.
