Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love
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Bluebird
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I think for most of the afternoon and evening, I'll be out at the game store playing WarMachine. I had a great win this weekend and I'm hoping the momentum continues! I get to add points to my army this week, so that should be good.
It was so hot upstairs last night that PunkRock and I retreated to the basement, where the central air actually works well. The 2nd floor is always warmer than the rest of the house but last night was unbearable to me, so we slept in his room rather than mine. I have resisted buying an air conditioner for my room individually, because our house has central air, but last night was just HOT.
I have paperwork, budgeting and homeschool stuff to do this morning, though I am not very motivated to do it at all. The sooner I finish, the sooner I can run off to do WarMachine, I suppose.
It was so hot upstairs last night that PunkRock and I retreated to the basement, where the central air actually works well. The 2nd floor is always warmer than the rest of the house but last night was unbearable to me, so we slept in his room rather than mine. I have resisted buying an air conditioner for my room individually, because our house has central air, but last night was just HOT.
I have paperwork, budgeting and homeschool stuff to do this morning, though I am not very motivated to do it at all. The sooner I finish, the sooner I can run off to do WarMachine, I suppose.
Bluebird
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Tomorrow DarkKnight and PunkRock and I are taking a trip to the National Aquarium. I am very excited because I've never been. It feels sort of surreal though, when I think about it. Visiting aquariums together has always been a "thing" with DarkKnight and me, since the beginning of our relationship. So I am looking forward to seeing this one with him. PunkRock actually worked in fish stores and interned at this aquarium years ago, so I am looking forward to exploring it with him. And of course, any time I am with both of my guys together, I can't help but feel cherished and loved. I think tomorrow is going to be great!
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Bluebird
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A good time was had by all at the National Aquarium last week - I am so glad I finally was able to go visit there. It really made me want to start up a fish tank, but our lease strictly forbids any of those.
My son turned 26 yesterday and we had a family BBQ. A couple of his friends came over - including the first guy I dated when I decided to give poly a try. And that guy's mother. My son plays on their trivia team, so it's really not THAT weird of an occurrence. Anyway, what was weird was that they spent an hour sitting with DarkKnight and me in the living room, talking about how she wanted a grandchild and how he had a distinct lack of options on making one. He said, "It's not like I can go up to a girl and ask her to biologically reproduce with me!" The entire thing left me feeling icky, and feeling like that's actually what they were asking me to do for them. Seriously.
Afterward, I told DarkKnight had surreal that felt for me and did he get the same impression, and no, I was not imaging things.
Having his mother broker a baby deal with me is just the kind of weird thing this guy would do, but why with me, I have no idea. Way back when, this guy went out to dinner with me to tell me that he had been pretending to find me attractive the entire time and that I was really overweight and ugly, and that I was very fake - that I didn't really enjoy nerdy things, I just pretended to like Star Wars and Lord of the Rings and superheroes. Yeah.
So to have this guy sit on my loveseat with his mother and listen to her talk about how she really wanted grandkids was crazy to me. I kinda think there have been conversations about how he blew it with me and that was his last chance at love and a "normal life" and that he needs to court me if he wants a baby because he has been single for like 20 years.
Anyway, that's not happening with me. I am crazy in love with my DarkKnight and my PunkRockAwesomesauce and I'm not having babies with them!
Speaking of PunkRock, he was oh so loving and cuddly with me last night. I just wanted to melt all over him.
My son turned 26 yesterday and we had a family BBQ. A couple of his friends came over - including the first guy I dated when I decided to give poly a try. And that guy's mother. My son plays on their trivia team, so it's really not THAT weird of an occurrence. Anyway, what was weird was that they spent an hour sitting with DarkKnight and me in the living room, talking about how she wanted a grandchild and how he had a distinct lack of options on making one. He said, "It's not like I can go up to a girl and ask her to biologically reproduce with me!" The entire thing left me feeling icky, and feeling like that's actually what they were asking me to do for them. Seriously.
Afterward, I told DarkKnight had surreal that felt for me and did he get the same impression, and no, I was not imaging things.
Having his mother broker a baby deal with me is just the kind of weird thing this guy would do, but why with me, I have no idea. Way back when, this guy went out to dinner with me to tell me that he had been pretending to find me attractive the entire time and that I was really overweight and ugly, and that I was very fake - that I didn't really enjoy nerdy things, I just pretended to like Star Wars and Lord of the Rings and superheroes. Yeah.
So to have this guy sit on my loveseat with his mother and listen to her talk about how she really wanted grandkids was crazy to me. I kinda think there have been conversations about how he blew it with me and that was his last chance at love and a "normal life" and that he needs to court me if he wants a baby because he has been single for like 20 years.
Anyway, that's not happening with me. I am crazy in love with my DarkKnight and my PunkRockAwesomesauce and I'm not having babies with them!
Speaking of PunkRock, he was oh so loving and cuddly with me last night. I just wanted to melt all over him.
Bluebird
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Another week has started! I had fun today being with my DarkKnight and playing D&D with what has become a new group of friends. I absolutely love my character and I hope she lives forever. 
Tonight was spent with PunkRock playing a game of WarMachine, in which he crushed me easily.
Tomorrow afternoon I am heading to the other game store in town to meet up with some guys in the league to hopefully get a bunch of games in.
I am going to do some school planning for the Fall with my daughter in the morning tomorrow. She will be a senior in high school! I can't believe it! Really, I could almost graduate her now, but she has another year of English to complete. She has already started reading the first book I assigned, so she's on her way. I am going to do a math review with her, for sure. I will have to figure out what to call it, though she doesn't need the credits. She only needed Algebra I and Algebra II and she completed those classes already. It's just that with her brain and memory issues, she will need a refresher to pass the entrance exams into the trade school she hopes to attend. She has way more science credits than needed, and she's good on Social Studies already too. Art, Music and Health have been done for a while now. So mostly we will be rounding out her year with electives.
Of course, her trip to Nepal will count toward Social Studies, but she doesn't really need the credit, as I said before. I asked her to make a list of things she wants to learn before she lives independently, and so far all she has mentioned is a personal finance class - how to use credit cards, stuff about credit scores and banking. I am sure I can set that up. DarkKnight said he wants to make sure she is solid on how to use all of the MicroSoft Office products - specifically Excel, as she has had experience with Word from all the essays she's written, and PowerPoint she can handle too. So we will see what else she comes up with to round out her year!
Tonight was spent with PunkRock playing a game of WarMachine, in which he crushed me easily.Tomorrow afternoon I am heading to the other game store in town to meet up with some guys in the league to hopefully get a bunch of games in.
I am going to do some school planning for the Fall with my daughter in the morning tomorrow. She will be a senior in high school! I can't believe it! Really, I could almost graduate her now, but she has another year of English to complete. She has already started reading the first book I assigned, so she's on her way. I am going to do a math review with her, for sure. I will have to figure out what to call it, though she doesn't need the credits. She only needed Algebra I and Algebra II and she completed those classes already. It's just that with her brain and memory issues, she will need a refresher to pass the entrance exams into the trade school she hopes to attend. She has way more science credits than needed, and she's good on Social Studies already too. Art, Music and Health have been done for a while now. So mostly we will be rounding out her year with electives.
Of course, her trip to Nepal will count toward Social Studies, but she doesn't really need the credit, as I said before. I asked her to make a list of things she wants to learn before she lives independently, and so far all she has mentioned is a personal finance class - how to use credit cards, stuff about credit scores and banking. I am sure I can set that up. DarkKnight said he wants to make sure she is solid on how to use all of the MicroSoft Office products - specifically Excel, as she has had experience with Word from all the essays she's written, and PowerPoint she can handle too. So we will see what else she comes up with to round out her year!
Bluebird
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Soo...my 17 year old daughter's biological father friended me on Facebook this week. It has been an emotional time for her - and all of us - but things seem to be going well. He signed away his rights so she would enter foster care when she was 6, and hasn't seen or talked to her since. So far, she has no desire to friend him on Facebook, or see him. She has always desperately wanted to know information about him, and to see a picture, and now she has. I have a therapy appointment scheduled for tomorrow, even though she tells me she is fine. I can see it has been hard on her.
I have been fielding all of the correspondence. Birthdad has been extremely respectful and has answered every single question we have put to him. So there is that. He lives in NY, in the same place he did when he signed away his rights. He has already asked to meet up, but I told him that hey, she is hesitant about even friending him on Facebook - she is not about to go and see him. It is too early. He took that rather well.
My oldest daughter reunited with her birthmom around age 18, and it ended in a disastrous way. My youngest saw this, so she is cautious. Rightfully so. I hope she has a happier ending. She told me yesterday that it is a very weird feeling, because she has a family, and she is fine, but yet there's now this whole other father out there now and that feels very fake and he's a stranger, yet he's supposed to be the real one. I hurt for her as she works through this.
I have been fielding all of the correspondence. Birthdad has been extremely respectful and has answered every single question we have put to him. So there is that. He lives in NY, in the same place he did when he signed away his rights. He has already asked to meet up, but I told him that hey, she is hesitant about even friending him on Facebook - she is not about to go and see him. It is too early. He took that rather well.
My oldest daughter reunited with her birthmom around age 18, and it ended in a disastrous way. My youngest saw this, so she is cautious. Rightfully so. I hope she has a happier ending. She told me yesterday that it is a very weird feeling, because she has a family, and she is fine, but yet there's now this whole other father out there now and that feels very fake and he's a stranger, yet he's supposed to be the real one. I hurt for her as she works through this.
Bluebird
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We've been playing the Star Wars X-Wing Miniatures game once a month at the game store in town, and last night a few of my daughter's friends showed up to join the league we are starting. I had fun with PunkRock, teaching them how to play. DarkKnight played with another group - the more advanced version - and he ended up winning against everyone, so he had a good night too.
Last night I was with PunkRock for a sleepover, but he had to set his alarm for 3 am because his work schedule was shit today. I am hosting the teen game club here today at 1 pm, which is when he will be getting home from work and wanting to sleep. That's going to suck for him, for sure. The kids are always loud.
Tonight is my book club - I have finally got it down to just one book club - so I will be out to dinner with them.
I did some research on ancestry yesterday during the day and discovered that my family was somehow involved with the Hooker Chemical Plant in NY - I had several family members who worked there before it became the first SuperFund site. It looks as if some of their homes no longer exist because of the contamination. I need to break out maps and do some more exploration. I guess I am glad I never had bio children, because maybe they'd have flippers!
Last night I was with PunkRock for a sleepover, but he had to set his alarm for 3 am because his work schedule was shit today. I am hosting the teen game club here today at 1 pm, which is when he will be getting home from work and wanting to sleep. That's going to suck for him, for sure. The kids are always loud.
Tonight is my book club - I have finally got it down to just one book club - so I will be out to dinner with them.
I did some research on ancestry yesterday during the day and discovered that my family was somehow involved with the Hooker Chemical Plant in NY - I had several family members who worked there before it became the first SuperFund site. It looks as if some of their homes no longer exist because of the contamination. I need to break out maps and do some more exploration. I guess I am glad I never had bio children, because maybe they'd have flippers!
Bluebird
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I love my life, truly! Yesterday I had wonderful sex in the morning with my PunkRockAwesomesauce, with many snuggles and lots of love. He had to work from around 1:30 pm to 10:30 pm, so he went off to work, while DarkKnight & I had a lunch date, followed by grocery shopping. Then we came home, I started working on Ancestry stuff, but then fell asleep! I had a good nap, woke up for dinner, and then had another date with DarkKnight. We went to a local car cruise-in, shared a snow cone and then spent the rest of the evening at a Beer & Board & Games event. We came back home shortly before midnight, in time for me to make kissy faces with PunkRock before heading to bed. A thoroughly good day!
Today I woke up around 8 am and felt like being girly, so I spent my morning coloring my hair, painting my toenails and putting on makeup while talking and giggling with DarkKnight. Around 11 I went downstairs to awaken PunkRock, and then he and I went out to lunch. We returned home in time to say goodbye to DarkKnight, who was off to play D&D. PunkRock and I headed to Martinsburg to get in some games of WarMachine. I scored two losses while there, but I had good games and good conversation, so I consider that a positive! Anyway, after the games we drove back to our town and ate again at the new Peruvian place. Now, it's almost time for bed and I feel really happy for another day well spent.
What is so great to me, is that both days were different, but relaxed, and I felt so wonderful and in love with both my husbands. There was no tension about splitting up my time, as it just fit. Don't get me wrong, it takes scheduling, but lately everything just falls into place without much hassle.
I had discussions with both guys today about our move in a couple of years, and the plan is to move someplace depressed and cheap so we can save up lots of cash. Today we discussed Detroit as a possibility, as that has been some place we've all heard about that's currently in the crapper. We threw around the idea of purchasing a foreclosure at auction - a brief search says we should be able to get houses around $10,000. It might make sense to buy a property, move there and have PunkRock spent a crap ton of his time getting it up to code. (He has mad remodeling and contractor skills, yo.) we could possibly buy the house and do all the fix ups for less than what we'd spend on rent here in the same time frame.
Anyone have any input? We would obviously do lots more research, but it is something we talked about here and there today.
Today I woke up around 8 am and felt like being girly, so I spent my morning coloring my hair, painting my toenails and putting on makeup while talking and giggling with DarkKnight. Around 11 I went downstairs to awaken PunkRock, and then he and I went out to lunch. We returned home in time to say goodbye to DarkKnight, who was off to play D&D. PunkRock and I headed to Martinsburg to get in some games of WarMachine. I scored two losses while there, but I had good games and good conversation, so I consider that a positive! Anyway, after the games we drove back to our town and ate again at the new Peruvian place. Now, it's almost time for bed and I feel really happy for another day well spent.
What is so great to me, is that both days were different, but relaxed, and I felt so wonderful and in love with both my husbands. There was no tension about splitting up my time, as it just fit. Don't get me wrong, it takes scheduling, but lately everything just falls into place without much hassle.
I had discussions with both guys today about our move in a couple of years, and the plan is to move someplace depressed and cheap so we can save up lots of cash. Today we discussed Detroit as a possibility, as that has been some place we've all heard about that's currently in the crapper. We threw around the idea of purchasing a foreclosure at auction - a brief search says we should be able to get houses around $10,000. It might make sense to buy a property, move there and have PunkRock spent a crap ton of his time getting it up to code. (He has mad remodeling and contractor skills, yo.) we could possibly buy the house and do all the fix ups for less than what we'd spend on rent here in the same time frame.
Anyone have any input? We would obviously do lots more research, but it is something we talked about here and there today.
Dagferi
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Look up the Coal region of PA. Shamokin, Pottsville, Minersville, Kulpmont, Mount Carmel etc.
Perfectly livable houses here can be bought for under $20,000 that need very little work.
We bought ours for under 16K. It needed very little just paint and yard work. You don't have the crime rate of Detroit and I am close to NYC, Philly, Baltimore and etc. Knoebels is near by if you like amusement parks.
Perfectly livable houses here can be bought for under $20,000 that need very little work.
We bought ours for under 16K. It needed very little just paint and yard work. You don't have the crime rate of Detroit and I am close to NYC, Philly, Baltimore and etc. Knoebels is near by if you like amusement parks.
Dagferi
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There are bigamy laws on the books but have went unenforced for decades along with sodomy laws. As my lawyer says they have much bigger fish to fry.
I have been married to Murf for three years now nada has happened. The only way they would is if we were to try for welfare benefits or health insurance from his employer. Neither of which are going to happen.
I don't mind it up here. The culture is very i will leave you alone if you leave me alone. They have some interesting food up here like city chicken, soupies, etc.
The cost of living is half of what it is 40 miles away in Harrisburg. The mountains are beautiful. You definitely get a work out walking the hills around town.
I have been married to Murf for three years now nada has happened. The only way they would is if we were to try for welfare benefits or health insurance from his employer. Neither of which are going to happen.
I don't mind it up here. The culture is very i will leave you alone if you leave me alone. They have some interesting food up here like city chicken, soupies, etc.
The cost of living is half of what it is 40 miles away in Harrisburg. The mountains are beautiful. You definitely get a work out walking the hills around town.
Yeah, I think Detroit would pose three major problems: the weather, the crime rate, and the condition of the house. Sure it might only cost $10K, but you should see the condition a lot of Detroit houses are in. They look like they're about to fall over. Not even suitable for the roaches, and you'll almost certainly get lots of roaches. (And house centipedes. Shudder.) As for the weather, Fall is great but Summer and Winter suck. The humidity shoots way up there and the temperatures are harsh to begin with, making Winter penetratingly icy cold and Summer meltingly swelteringly hot. Spring is okay but kind of only lasts a couple of weeks, LOL. Oh and there can be tornados in and around Summer, though to some people that's a plus ...
I hope Detroit will improve in years to come. It does have a lot of cool volunteer activity. So if you want a good sense of community, it can be good for that. And the downtown area is really cool. They have an awesome Greektown. I kind of miss Detroit (in some ways).
No idea what their laws are regarding poly.
I hope Detroit will improve in years to come. It does have a lot of cool volunteer activity. So if you want a good sense of community, it can be good for that. And the downtown area is really cool. They have an awesome Greektown. I kind of miss Detroit (in some ways).
No idea what their laws are regarding poly.
Bluebird
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Yeah, Detroit weather is a big neg. Honestly, the idea of buying a foreclosure is new to me and is requiring much thought. Previously I was thinking we would move someplace shitty, save a lot of money and then buy in a different location. The thought of taking a $10,000 cut out of DarkKnight's 401(k) and just straight up buying a house that needs work is seeming appealing. Especially give the skill set that PunkRock has. I was not looking forward to having to explain our relationship structure to potential landlords, so bypassing that step would be great.
I took a look at the Memphis area and saw several properties that might work for us there too. In the coming weeks I am going to be looking very carefully at specific locations, and talking about it more with both my guys.
I took a look at the Memphis area and saw several properties that might work for us there too. In the coming weeks I am going to be looking very carefully at specific locations, and talking about it more with both my guys.
IndieSolo
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Yeah, I would avoid Detroit. Beware that many economically depressed areas will also be dangerous.
What you could do is buy a property that could produce income for you, like a 2-family or a place with some space (basement, another floor, an addition, etc.) that Punk Rock could renovate so you can have a tenant and charge them enough rent that your mortgage and maintenance expenses are covered. You be the landlady!
What you could do is buy a property that could produce income for you, like a 2-family or a place with some space (basement, another floor, an addition, etc.) that Punk Rock could renovate so you can have a tenant and charge them enough rent that your mortgage and maintenance expenses are covered. You be the landlady!
Dagferi
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I live in an economically depressed area. Nothing dangerous here other than the deer that run in front of your car. Saturday Murf and I had a flock of Turkeys fly in front of us while out of the Harley...lol.
The crime we have here are drug, dui, and petty crime offenses. But those are everywhere. Typical Appalachia problems you find in the coal region. These towns are dying. Houses are going cheap because coal isn't King anymore. Even though it is still used here.
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Bluebird
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I am not interested in being a landlady. We have talked briefly of buying a duplex, but that was so one half could be DarkKnight's house, and the other half would be PunkRock's. I would then float between them. It is interesting to think about, but I have come to the conclusion that it would be more expensive to upkeep two households - double the cost of furniture, utilities, maintenance. If it got to a point where they couldn't live harmoniously together, then it would have to happen, but I don't see a benefit in separating when things are fine. Also, I like family-style poly much more. But landlady - nope! I have seen family members who rent property out have them pretty much destroyed - and this is even when they were renting to other family members! Right now we rent a room to my son, and I am counting down the days until I no longer have to be concerned with him being under my roof. I love him dearly, but I don't like the stress!
Economically depressed areas would work for us, as DarkKnight is the primary breadwinner and he works from home for an international conglomerate. So he'll be making the same amount of money, no matter what our location. Those dollars will go further in a poorer area though. PunkRock currently works for a big box store and it is possible to transfer, so we are also hoping that will happen. If he isn't, well, it's not as if he was making a ton of money, and he could hopefully find similar work in the new city. If we were able to lower our housing costs significantly, he could possibly downgrade to part time so he could use the other hours to work on upgrading our new home. For him to be able to work as a contractor and do a lot of the repairs himself for a year or so would be most excellent.
I believe there is a huge difference in the types of crime seen in a large city such as Detroit, vs a mountain town in Pennsylvania. Obviously I don't want to live in a place where I fear for my life, but I have lived in sketchy places in the past, so my level of acceptability may differ from others. However, that acceptability is altered significantly if we are talking about making it a more permanent move!
Economically depressed areas would work for us, as DarkKnight is the primary breadwinner and he works from home for an international conglomerate. So he'll be making the same amount of money, no matter what our location. Those dollars will go further in a poorer area though. PunkRock currently works for a big box store and it is possible to transfer, so we are also hoping that will happen. If he isn't, well, it's not as if he was making a ton of money, and he could hopefully find similar work in the new city. If we were able to lower our housing costs significantly, he could possibly downgrade to part time so he could use the other hours to work on upgrading our new home. For him to be able to work as a contractor and do a lot of the repairs himself for a year or so would be most excellent.
I believe there is a huge difference in the types of crime seen in a large city such as Detroit, vs a mountain town in Pennsylvania. Obviously I don't want to live in a place where I fear for my life, but I have lived in sketchy places in the past, so my level of acceptability may differ from others. However, that acceptability is altered significantly if we are talking about making it a more permanent move!
Bluebird
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I have a lot to focus on today and I feel pulled in many directions.
I woke up with my period. Always lovely.
I made the second of two appointments for my daughter to get her Hep A shot. I realized that she also needs to get a Typhoid vaccination for her trip to Nepal. More than likely the doctor office is going to send us to the travel clinic. Ugh. We will see on Thursday. I also contacted a travel agent about actually purchasing the plane ticket. I need to find some time in the next couple of weeks to go and talk to them, and pay.
Lots of follow up emails about my Biology class. More than half the kids have paid for their slots and the due date is Saturday. I have a wait list with 4 kids on it now, so soon I will see if those kids will be integrated into my existing two classes (due to other kids not paying) or if I will be adding a third session. I have to spend time this week finishing and printing curriculum so it is ready for the safety and setup class at the end of August.
We're supposed to go tubing with friends tomorrow and my daughter is filling up the tubes right now. One of the pumps needs new batteries, so I need to hit the store in an hour or so.
My bank balance was low this morning, and I realized I never got the rent payment from my son. So I need to go to the bank this afternoon and transfer that over. I budgeted for the rest of the month and all of our bills are covered, but I don't know how much more I need to earmark for the Nepal trip. I also need to schedule cash for traveling to New York to see my new niece, who is due this week. I don't know when that trip will be.
I've spent several hours on Ancestry.com and it has amazed me that I have had several 4th great grandparents and relatives die of cerebral hemorrhages. It also amazes me how someone can have 9 kids, and then several of those children also have 7 or 11 kids, etc. I know they were farmers, but damn. I always smile at the one who grew up and had no kids. I like to think they were sick of their big families and not suffering from infertility.
My daughter's birthfather texted me last night to have me confirm that I have two husbands. He asked me to please teach her that marriage should be between a man and a woman. I told him I didn't need to teach her that, society screams it at every point. I did assure him that we aren't religiously polygamist, and that she was not about to be married off to people of our choosing. He is not happy that I have two husbands, but he shut up. I think if I had given him more of an opening, he would have started denouncing gay marriage as well, but I didn't allow that discussion. This morning my daughter told me he friend requested her on facebook, but that she is hesitant because she doesn't want to see racist and anti-gay and poly stuff on her page. I told her I understood, and we talked about unfollowing feeds, but also about other family members who are also racist jerks and what they currently post that she already sees. I think she has a good handle on things. I believe she is going to accept his friend request. I told her she could also unfriend him if she decides she doesn't want that much contact.
I woke up with my period. Always lovely.
I made the second of two appointments for my daughter to get her Hep A shot. I realized that she also needs to get a Typhoid vaccination for her trip to Nepal. More than likely the doctor office is going to send us to the travel clinic. Ugh. We will see on Thursday. I also contacted a travel agent about actually purchasing the plane ticket. I need to find some time in the next couple of weeks to go and talk to them, and pay.
Lots of follow up emails about my Biology class. More than half the kids have paid for their slots and the due date is Saturday. I have a wait list with 4 kids on it now, so soon I will see if those kids will be integrated into my existing two classes (due to other kids not paying) or if I will be adding a third session. I have to spend time this week finishing and printing curriculum so it is ready for the safety and setup class at the end of August.
We're supposed to go tubing with friends tomorrow and my daughter is filling up the tubes right now. One of the pumps needs new batteries, so I need to hit the store in an hour or so.
My bank balance was low this morning, and I realized I never got the rent payment from my son. So I need to go to the bank this afternoon and transfer that over. I budgeted for the rest of the month and all of our bills are covered, but I don't know how much more I need to earmark for the Nepal trip. I also need to schedule cash for traveling to New York to see my new niece, who is due this week. I don't know when that trip will be.
I've spent several hours on Ancestry.com and it has amazed me that I have had several 4th great grandparents and relatives die of cerebral hemorrhages. It also amazes me how someone can have 9 kids, and then several of those children also have 7 or 11 kids, etc. I know they were farmers, but damn. I always smile at the one who grew up and had no kids. I like to think they were sick of their big families and not suffering from infertility.
My daughter's birthfather texted me last night to have me confirm that I have two husbands. He asked me to please teach her that marriage should be between a man and a woman. I told him I didn't need to teach her that, society screams it at every point. I did assure him that we aren't religiously polygamist, and that she was not about to be married off to people of our choosing. He is not happy that I have two husbands, but he shut up. I think if I had given him more of an opening, he would have started denouncing gay marriage as well, but I didn't allow that discussion. This morning my daughter told me he friend requested her on facebook, but that she is hesitant because she doesn't want to see racist and anti-gay and poly stuff on her page. I told her I understood, and we talked about unfollowing feeds, but also about other family members who are also racist jerks and what they currently post that she already sees. I think she has a good handle on things. I believe she is going to accept his friend request. I told her she could also unfriend him if she decides she doesn't want that much contact.
RainyGrlJenny
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When I went to South America, I opted to do the oral typhoid vaccination instead of the injection. It's self-administered, four doses total, each taken every other day. It was not only cheaper than the shot, but lasts 5 years instead of two, in case she ends up doing more traveling.
How exciting for her!
How exciting for her!