Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

Dinner at my Mother in laws was pretty unbearable, but it didn't have anything to do with poly. Her boyfriend's adult kids are white trash as hell. At one point they were talking about not wearing seat belts and helmets and how people who do are dumb. Freedom of choice! They kept saying that. It irked me because I know it doesn't extend to my freedom of choice to be poly. But also, ugh. They were very difficult to talk to and that is saying something since I am such an out there extrovert.

DarkKnight is going to visit today because he will be in their town, having lunch with a friend.

PunkRock told me last night he would murder-suicide with me, after I read a news article on the subject. I asked him, well, which of us would be doing the murdering? He said he would miss me incredibly if I were dying. I told him no hurry, please!

I have a sebaceous cyst on my upper left back area and it has always felt like nothing. Every now and then PunkRock will squeeze it and clean it out because I can't see it or feel it. Well yesterday it started hurting like a mofo and now it has made the surrounding area feel tender and stiff. According to the Internet, I need to go to the doctor so I guess that is now on my agenda for tomorrow. Lovely.

PunkRock's wedding ring arrived yesterday and it is gorgeous! More green in the abalone than blue, so now we are torn on which tie to order, and then what dress shirt to match. We figure we'll get the tie and then take it to Men's Warehouse for someone to give us some options. Right now we are leaning toward a sage color tie but I am not sure how that will work with a light gray suit. I like the celery colored tie but it only comes in a standard length and PunkRock needs an extra long, I think.
 
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OMG Went on facebook today and it popped up with a friend suggestion of the douchebag that sexually assaulted me back when I was dating. I think not. This has completely thrown me for a loop today. I was supposed to get started on paperwork but instead I am laying in bed feeling terrible.
 
Jeezh, what a nice friend suggestion. If it helps, I tend to take Facebook about as seriously as I would a circus clown. An *evil* circus clown. I mean for goodness sakes thay can't even leave the site the same for five minutes without adding some new "feature."

As for friend suggestions, I'm pretty sure those are based on a primitive algorithm that largely picks "suggestions" at random. The one thing it looks for is, do you and the "suggested" person have at least one "friend" (friend means something different on Facebook than in real life, we all know that) in common.

Which is depressing, because that means you and this rapey douchebag both have the same certain Facebook friend. Probably just one, but I'm sure it's still a depressing thought. But as I was saying, a friend on Facebook doesn't even mean what it means in real life ... heck that guy could have merely enlisted one of your friends in his Mafia Wars game or something.

Anyway, sorry that happened to you. Sorry all of that happened, especially the sexual assault itself. :(
 
Actually, we have no mutual friends. I've noticed recently that Facebook has been suggesting friends based on people on my phone contact list. Which includes people who I still have on the list, but blocked. Which includes this jerkface. :/
 
Oh brother, Facebook has a new bonehead excuse for suggesting "friends." Nobody bothered to make the software so it could comprehend whether a number was on a list because it was blocked. Oops.
 
Today is kinda busy. I took my son to work and then spent an hour and a half in Hobby Lobby looking at flowers. I bought some beads for when my friend and I get together to make jewelry later this month.

Last night I ordered color swatches for the ties we are considering for PunkRock. The shades change depending on what electronic device I am on, so I figured it would be best to pay the $10. I also ordered his ear gauges - they're abalone shell, just like on his wedding ring.

Oh! I am having lunch with DarkKnight today. Will have to write more later.
 
I just spent an hour sorting tax paperwork and filing things in regards to my son and his disability. He was planning on going to college full time in the Spring, so I was prepping for that. After I did all the work, I discovered that he actually failed his word processing class in the Fall, so he is ineligible for financial aid and will not be going full time. I am beyond pissed off right now. I want my hour back. The only possible way he failed this was by not turning in work, because he sure as hell knows how to use Word. So he was lying to all of us again for 3 months about his work. This has me seeing red at the moment. I am so very tired of this sort of bullshit.

All this happened after a very nice lunch date with DarkKnight. Then I returned home and got a phone call from a debt collector, about a $400 medical bill from August. I'm like what?!? I made sure that we emptied out our flex account last month and everything was paid. August? I haven't had any bills at all this year for $400. So I requested documentation. So, since I was angry and confused about that, I decided to throw myself into college planning for my son. I am now just going to go take a nap, because to hell with today. It started off so well, too!
 
Had a doctor appointment today. I am now waiting to hear from the surgeon. My doctor wants my cyst to be dug out, but he says it is too invasive for him to do it. I hate my skin, seriously.

What else is going on? Poly-wise, not much. The last couple of nights have been off-schedule, as DarkKnight took our daughter skating on Monday night and so missed his date night with me. I spent the time shredding paperwork. Last night was supposed to be PunkRock's date night, but instead the family played Forbidden Island - twice - and lost both times. Then we decided to all watch the movie Whip It together. That was nice - I love being cuddled up on the couch with both of my loves. DarkKnight and I had sexy time after, before falling asleep. It was nice to reconnect, as he hadn't been in the mood for the past 5 days.
 
A friend of mine has a bakery business, and there was never any question in my mind that I was going to have her make my wedding cake. I talked to her today via text, and she was so happy to discuss ideas with me! She actually said she is going to gift it to me as a wedding present, so I was really touched by that.

I am not sure what flavor we are going to go with, but this photo shows the basic design:

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We are just going to do the center layer, as the top would be too short to showcase the design, and having a tiered cake when there is just PunkRock and I to eat it would be absurd. (Just the top layer would feed 12.) We won't have any gold on the cake, and the blue will actually match the blue color we are using in the wedding...which hasn't exactly been decided yet! I am still waiting to receive the tie color swatches in the mail; they should be arriving today or tomorrow.
 
Love that cake design.
 
Tie swatches came today! I am so happy I ordered them because the colors were very different. We decided to go with the teal green. Here is a pic of PunkRock's wedding ring with the color swatch and some of the beads I'm turning into jewelry next weekend:

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And some flower ideas:

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Randomness:

In the last 3 days, both my guys have come home with speeding tickets. A friend told me, "well, at least we know you have a type." Sigh. PunkRock got popped by a speed camera when he was late for work in the morning - 37 in a 25, $40. DarkKnight got lost coming home at night and didn't know what the limit was where he was located - 44 in a 25, $90. Seriously uncool, but oh well. I'm kinda afraid it's my turn now so I might not leave the house!

My Subway diet is going well. As of yesterday morning, I've lost 6.2 pounds. I am beginning to hate Subway though.

PunkRock made Employee of the Month at work, which is pretty cool. Maybe they'll take that into consideration and make him full time.

I came home yesterday and PunkRock had bought me a copy of my favorite foreign film - My Life as a Dog. I owned it on VHS, and he picked it up on DVD for me. So squee! He has never seen it, so we are going to watch it together for date night tonight. He also bought me a tennis ball with a string attached, so I'll know where to stop when pulling into the garage. I've been wanting one to help me for a while, so it made me very happy! I was totally shocked by both of these surprises. I have the sweetest boyfriend!

Right now I am crazy tired but I am waiting for DarkKnight to wake up and come down the hall to snuggle me.
 
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Holy crap $40/$90 I seriously need to move. My 31 in a 25 was $175 5 years ago. The only thing around here that's under $200 are parking tickets.:rolleyes:

The flowers are BEAUTIFUL!!!
 
Love the cake design, the flowers and overall your color theme for the wedding! All so beautiful!
 
Thanks for the positive feedback on everything! I ordered the actual tie today. I think I've found a dress on ModCloth - it's called "Love You Ivory Day." It's only $89. I'm not pulling the trigger yet though. I dislike the idea of ordering and not knowing how it will fit! I have two other possibilities on my Pinterest - both which I can try on locally. But I won't be doing that this month. I can wait. :) So far I've lost 5.8 pounds so things are going well on my diet.

I spent an hour looking at flowers in Michael's with PunkRock yesterday. We didn't buy anything, but I took many, many pictures. They didn't really have anything that was truly teal, so I plan to check out other places when I get the tie in the mail, so I can get a good match.

I am writing this from the outpatient surgery place in town. DarkKnight took the day off work and is with me. I am getting the sebaceous cyst off my upper back. It just looks like a hole in my skin, but it's been hurting lately, so they are going to cut it out.

Tonight PunkRock and I are going to go pay for my daughter's handgun. There's a 7 day waiting period after we pay & do the final paperwork, so it will be ready just in time.

This afternoon I need to go buy the new ceiling fan for my bedroom, and I've got bills and papers to deal with. Buh.
 
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My surgery was postponed - the doc wanted me to come back in a week or so. Sigh.

I don't know why but lately I am horny as fuck. Nothing new, right? Oh man I want sex so bad, all the time. I've been thinking about becoming more active on FetLife again and having as much awesome, varied sex as I can stand. Honestly, I don't need the complication of the logistics of traveling to and from dates and events. And I am just so focused on DarkKnight and PunkRock right now - emotionally, I am not sure if I could focus on another man. But I am totally thinking about it.

That said, I am able to transfer a lot of my horniness to my guys - with varying degrees of success. They can't help that they're tired but I can't help that I need to be penetrated! I'm getting good attention at least every other day, if not every day. But, I'm still wanting sex, more. I'm spoiled. I am. But getting more sex just means I want more. At least, that's what's happening.

I think I'm going to stay focused on my little polycule right now though. There is so much love in my life and I don't want complications.
 
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