Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

[Bluebird]

Today is a day off for me and I’m scheduled pretty heavily, but at least most of it is fun!

This morning I need to take DarkKnight to work, and then pick up BugGirl from her transition home. The plan is to get breakfast, then go to the local airport with MisterMoonbeam. He’s had a rental car this week, and he needs to drop it back off. So we will give him a ride back home.

Right after, BugGirl and I are going to visit her brother in Waynesboro. BeanBoy needs to go grocery shopping, and I have to help him with his new paycheck. We are planning to go to the bank and get him set up with a new account. I’m his rep payee on his social security account, but he needs one he can use himself for his paychecks.

When I finish up in Pennsylvania, BugGirl and I are going to do some fast thrifting this afternoon! She’s been helping SirGawain and I organize his life - and house - and we need to get some things before the holiday. The most important is lighting for his dining room, but equally needed right now is a China cabinet of some sort for his kitchen. He has a small table along one wall and it’s just inefficient and messy all of the time. Hopefully we can find something that is more useful for that space. I also want to get some throw blankets and pillows for his basement couch, and a curtain and rod to act as a divider for one area of his dining room. We have a list. Lol

I’m hoping my youngest can pick up DarkKnight from work, but she wasn’t sure if she was working a full day herself or not. If she can’t, I will have to stick around town to do that. Otherwise, as soon as we are done thrifting, I can drop off BugGirl and head to Frederick for a sleepover with SirGawain.

 

[Bluebird]

And I got my period tonight. Again, completely off kilter and a week early. I just discovered it when I went to pee. Ughhhhh

 

[Magdlyn]

Does a three week cycle make you feel like a tired alligator (your sig)?

What is better, early or late?

 

[Bluebird]

I’d rather it just stop altogether! I am completely exhausted - it just dehydrates and drains me of energy. The cramps today are killer, and of course I have an entire day of cleaning scheduled with SirGawain. We are rearranging some shelving and setting up lighting in his dining room in preparation for Thanksgiving. There are literally no days left for me to focus on this except for today. I wish my period would have been a week late, so I could just lay on the couch and cry with a heating pad.

So far this morning I have cleared off and moved the kitchen table out, and helped SirGawain slide it down into the basement. It’s supposed to have a new home in the laundry room, but he didn’t clean out the space yet, so it’s just in the entry hall to the basement, blocking everything. I’m not caring today. I need to get the dining room and kitchen done!

I’ve also emptied the three litter boxes in the kitchen. We are completely relocating those to an alcove elsewhere. They were on a rubber sort of runner with ridges to catch all the extra litter. I just sprayed that down and it’s soaking as SirGawain does not own a scrub brush. He went out to buy one. Underneath the runner is like 3 years+ of urine soaked into the hardwood. When we last dated I poured bottles and bottles of hydrogen peroxide on this spot. There’s no saving it. The floor needs to be ripped out but that isn’t in the cards right now. So it’s covered by this runner. The runner itself is just dusty, so cleaning that will be easy. It’s going to be washed and dried and stay right where it is.

I also cleared off some wired shelving on wheels - once the runner area is sanitized and clean, this set of shelving will be relocated over that spot. It holds bottled water and soon, storage bins (that we need to go out and buy) to hold ziplock bags and such. It’s been living rather haphazardly in his dining room, which makes no sense, and it will fit perfectly in the kitchen.

There’s another HUGE set of industrial metal wire shelving in the dining room, which is going to be moved into the kitchen, against the wall where the table was. It currently holds storage for cat food, litter and other cat items. That’s going to fit perfect in the kitchen as well, once we relocate the water fountain and cat food tray into there.

Sigh. It’s a lot of shuffling and cleaning. I have zero motivation since my period hit. I know the spaces will look good when I am done, but right now I feel weak AF and I just wanna cry.

 

[Bluebird]

Photo drop because I’m literally just sitting here.

Spot in the kitchen where the table used to be. It was literally just used as a catch all, and never as a table. The crap in the foreground was some of the stuff that was on top of it. You can see the rubber runner on the floor with cleaning spray on it.



This is the current dining room shelving unit. It doesn’t belong in a dining room, but I have to say that it fit into this alcove like a glove when we bought it! This is moving into the empty space where the table was in the photo above. The litter boxes are going to be relocated here, and then covered with a curtain.



The curtains I bought last night. I got a big tension rod as well. This will be closed when the dining room is being used so no one has to look at the litter boxes in the alcove.



Rollo, poop-boy extraordinaire and my baby! He’s not sure what to make of the work I’m doing today!

 

[Bluebird]

Progress.

 

[Bluebird]

Finished for today! This is SirGawain’s kitchen. I want more bins to make the larger shelving unit a little nicer, but I spent over $300 of my boyfriend’s cash yesterday and today. He also needs a new toaster because his is like 35 years old.

I also added a pic of part of his dining room, because that’s in progress as well. I built those two bookcases, but still have two more to put together. Sigh. Tomorrow, I guess! Tonight I’m all set - we are heading back to my house to play some board games with the rest of the polycule.

 

[Bluebird]

It’s Sunday! I woke up early this morning and I’m working on my Teen Christmas program list. I unexpectedly had 11 of our teens get dropped by a sponsor (they kept 40 so I can’t really complain too much) so I have been scrambling to get them Santas. I’m back down to 2 now so that’s pretty good! I got their requests onto our Amazon Wish List, so hopefully they will get picked off bit by bit, or a donor will come along and snag everything! I can hope! SirGawain hasn’t matched yet with a letter, so I might just direct him over to snag a few things.

DarkKnight just left to get everyone Starbucks for breakfast, and to pick up BugGirl. I’m sending them on a quest this morning to pick up brand new 2x2 carpet squares from a donor. I also have to move over a bunch of donated Christmas stuff to the storage unit, and bring back some empty totes. We had a bunch of Senior Santa Christmas sponsors drop off in the last few days, and I need to get those sorted and ready to go.

Most of the day today though, BugGirl and I will be at SirGawain’s. Her focus will be cleaning the basement living room. SirGawain said he’s willing to pay her for 4 hours of labor, in top of the 2 hours he owes her for last Wednesday. It’s push time - gotta get it done! I’m going to be assembling the bookcases for the dining room.

 

[Magdlyn]

It sure is nice of you to spend so much of your limited time completely reorganizing SG's home. I hope he appreciates you.

 

[Bluebird]

It sure is nice of you to spend so much of your limited time completely reorganizing SG's home. I hope he appreciates you.

Well, most of the time is BugGirl’s. SirGawain is paying her $20 an hour to clean and organize. She’s been going twice a week, 5-8 hours a week since she’s been out of the recovery home.

I’ve spent 2 days doing the work moving the furniture around now, but it’s mostly for Thanksgiving. He’s hosting and we need to fit 9 people! So I don’t mind. He better appreciate it.

I remember when I was dating both him and Cornflower, and Cornflower made a similar comment - he wondered how I would feel if I broke up with SirGawain, after spending my time rearranging and organizing things there. I told him the same thing I feel now - I’m cool with it. It’s not time lost cleaning, it’s time spent loving. And even if things end badly, time spent loving is always a positive.

 

[Bluebird]

Today was busy. I spent the afternoon assembling a bookcase at SirGawain’s. It was supposed to be two bookcases, but one of the boxes proved to be full of pieces to a gray bookcase, and we needed cherry colored. Ugh. It saved me some time but it wasn’t what we had planned with the layout.

That said, we got them spaced how we wanted, and all of the lighting set up in the room. The artwork isn’t hung yet, nor is stuff actually arranged on the shelves, but we did get all 3 leaves into the table. I figured out how to make the place settings work for Thanksgiving too. Here are some pics, but the room photo isn’t all that great. Say hello to Rollo again though!

BugGirl and I went shopping tonight, and I spent a little over $100 on a tablecloth, runner, a centerpiece and some knickknacky things to put on the shelves. I’ll get better pics on Tuesday or Wednesday.

 

[Bluebird]

I’m busy today with Thanksgiving items! I’m scheduled for pickups of 8 turkeys, 3 hams, 2 turkey breasts and one pork loin. The Blessing Box freezer is full. Lol I have our own ham and turkey defrosting in the fridge. Tonight is my date night with DarkKnight and it’s going to be spent sorting out all of the platters, pots and pans and serving utensils we need for our holiday, as I need to get them in a tote and over to SirGawain’s tomorrow night. I also need to make a tote of the non-perishable food items to go over, as we will be bringing the cold & frozen items with us on Friday when we celebrate.

I had bad dreams all last night, so I am running on fumes today. I filled the Box once already, and had three visitors pull some stuff they needed. I should go fill it again and will do that in a minute.

DarkKnight is bringing me the car in a short while, so I can go pick up another turkey with a free certificate I have, and to buy our fresh sides - potatoes, green beans and the like. I also need to pick up lunch for MisterMoonbeam, BugGirl and I. I’m actually super hungry so I hope DarkKnight gets here sooner rather than later.

 

[Bluebird]

Today I was able to sleep in a bit. MisterMoonbeam had a sleep study done overnight so he was away with the car, so when he came home in the morning, he took DarkKnight to work. I just got up and got dressed to pick up BugGirl. She’s meeting with her old boss about training to run their CNC machine at a much higher rate of pay when she starts back there in December.

After her meeting, we are going to pick up some new 2x2 carpet squares. We were supposed to do that this weekend but got sidetracked. Then I will rush home to open the Box and I HAVE to start wrapping Senior Christmas gifts so I can start arranging pickups. Things are starting to stack high around here, so the sooner I get things wrapped, the sooner they can leave.

Tonight is a sleepover with SirGawain, and I will get there a little later, as I need to take DarkKnight to practice at 6 pm, but I can leave right after. I messaged SirGawain about going to the movies but he didn’t answer yet, so I didn’t buy the tickets. He’s been talking about seeing the new Ghostbusters film and it’s only $7 a ticket on Tuesdays.

 

[Bluebird]

We had two bits of really good news today!

1 - DarkKnight received a collection letter in the mail yesterday from a medical provider for $565. We were a little shocked because we have a health savings account with over $1000 in it at the moment, and an app that alerts us when a bill makes its way through the insurance system. This apparently is on his credit report and that’s NOT OKAY.

The good news is that he called the medical center today and they said if he could pay them directly, in full right then, they’d pull it back from collections and it would come off of his report. So he did and it should fix itself shortly. Thank goodness! Everything on his credit is a positive, so we don’t need anything mucking it up when we are buying a building next year.

We did find out that this particular medical center doesn’t forward bills to the app, so that’s how it got overlooked last year. However, this is the first we had even heard of it - and he’s been there since that particular date, and had other bills mailed to us. I’m not sure what happened, but it’s a positive that it’s taken care of now!

2 - MisterMoonbeam got a call from his boss today and he got a raise! It’s not even his review time, his boss just decided he deserved more than he was making! He got a 9% uptick, which is almost an extra $400 in his paycheck every two weeks! He was flabbergasted. This is really super great because we can use that money to get the house ready for its appraisal in the Spring.

Whoo hoo! I just need a win for SirGawain now.

 

[Bluebird]

Happy Thanksgiving!


On left: DarkKnight, BeanBoy, LittleMichigan, LittleMichigan’s current partner (colored out)

End of table: SirGawain

On right: BugGirl, MisterMoonbeam, me!

 

[Bluebird]

Now that Thanksgiving is over, my life is about to get cray-cray. So much happening and going on.

I need to hold a “State of the Union” with all of my guys. First though, I need to sit down with each of them and figure out finances and long term planning. Then we can all come together and discuss stuff.

DarkKnight has tech week for Elf: The Musical, starting Sunday, so alone time with him just is not going to happen until after the 4th. I’m going to get him on the calendar later today though so we can schedule it. We need to order his credit reports & credit score - probably mid January, to give some time for that bogus medical bill to come off. Right now we really need to figure out his retirement planning as well. He is still underinsured when it comes to life insurance, and he’s really focused on weight loss at the moment, so I am going to talk to him about that.

Our love relationship is super strong, but the sex is just not there. Lately he has been just not into any sort of intimate relations at all. I think once he starts losing weight that will change a bit. At the moment we don’t even have any sex toys that we use together. This makes me sad because I wanna get with him so bad!

MisterMoonbeam and I though, had another talk earlier this week about the lack of sex in our lives. The last time we fooled around was in North Carolina. I again discussed with him how to work on things with this. He is in therapy and he says he feels it will take a while.

We had a rope session last Wednesday and he had talked up about how we were going to fuck but all that happened is that he did a super cool tie pattern on my right leg. He took some viagra but it literally had zero effect. He said he’s going to discuss this with his doctor to may switch to something else.

On Thursday night I told him I wanted to just have a make out session with no pressure and holy hell it was fucking hot as shit. He got super hard with no medication, and I gave him some oral, but not to completion. I did some grinding on him and had two orgasms that way, and I used my hitachi on myself for one more. He said he is totally down for more of these. I am definitely interested myself!

Financially, I have to sit down with him and sort through all of his bills and paperwork. We’ve briefly talked here and there about the work the house needs to sell or refinance and getting it ready for that. My main concern though with him is looking at all of his payment plans with the IRS and medical creditors from when his wife was in the hospital. He’s got tons of little payments coming out each month that he can probably cancel - he just forgets that they exist. With his raise coming through, he really needs to be able to know exactly what’s up. We also need to buy a car for him soon.

He bought us tickets to a masquerade ball in January and we’ve invited everyone we know to come. I hope some people do because it would be a blast. He also shared that he has the entire week off after Christmas, so we are planning a driving vacation - I need to visit my siblings and mom for the holidays, like I do every year. I spoke to MisterMoonbeam’s mom a bit on actual Thanksgiving, and she wants us to come to Michigan that week because she and MisterMoonbeam’s dad will be there then, visiting MisterMoonbeam’s brother’s family. We also want to see the Chihuly exhibit in the botanical gardens in Columbus. So we have ideas but no concrete plans yet.

SirGawain and I are weird. At least, he’s weird. I love him lots and having him host Thanksgiving was an experience. Lol My daughter is back to work next week, so she will only be able to clean for him once a week on Sundays, so that may slow our progress with work on his house. I want to sit down with him and map out plans for next year with fixing things up.

Lately though, his physical touch with me is non-existent. He doesn’t kiss me, hug me, or snuggle with me. This is my love language, so this is a problem. I mentioned my dissatisfaction with this once but he kinda just brushed me off, saying he’s just being strange and that it doesn’t reflect his feelings for me. Well we are going to have to have a more in-depth conversation!

He bought tickets so the two of us can go see DarkKnight in Elf next Sunday. He’s invited me to spend Christmas Day with his extended family. I’ve met his dad before, but never any of his siblings, so that’s something I am looking forward to. He’s been bemoaning that he wants to go on vacation but that’s not happening before Christmas - I would like to schedule a weekend away at an AirBnB in January for sure for us.

The polycule itself is now getting together every Saturday night for game night. We did a round of Red Dragon Inn last weekend and it was a blast! Tonight I think we are starting a Zombicide campaign. Black Friday yesterday I caught a deal at our favorite escape room, so MisterMoonbeam snagged a hugely discounted gift card there so we can all do a room together, probably December 12 or 13th. Whatever that weekend is. We have enough credit so BugGirl can come too if she wants.

The Blessing Box is blowing up my schedule - this coming Friday I have to set up my Christmas Decoration giveaway for Saturday the 4th. All of the Senior Santa and Teen Christmas gifts (presents for around 160 people) are coming in now and my house is filling up! Next week is seriously going to be crazy. I still have yet to figure out Random Acts of Christmas, and that’s supposed to start Dec 1. I *think* I’m going to give away $100+ worth of gas cards once a week, each week, but I have to work that out. I definitely need more donations for that.

My own Christmas is in flux. I have to still get the tree up but outside decorations will probably happen Sunday. I have some presents purchased but I’m not even close to being done. Our Christmas pajamas have arrived, all except my shirt, which Amazon says will be here Tuesday.

Paperwork hasn’t happened. I plan to file my annual report with the state the week before Christmas. As far as the non-profit paperwork, I honestly have no idea. I’m freaking out a bit in my head but I need to sit down and look at the calendar and just pick a Wednesday to disappear and do nothing but that.

With my kids, we have figured out that we will probably do our Christmas gift exchange on Christmas Eve afternoon.

I need to schedule time for my son. He now has a bank account again, and we are waiting for them to send him a statement so he can have enough forms of ID to switch his license to a Pennsylvania one. He has a job now so I need to update everything with the social security office and start reporting his wages after the first of the month again.

BugGirl is starting back at her old job on Monday. She’s supposed to be buying MisterMoonbeam’s old minivan so we need to get that towed to the shop on Monday, so it can get inspected and then registered and insured in Maryland. She owes fines to the MVA so I have to help her navigate that.

LittleMichigan is weirding me out lately. BugGirl says she is worried about her and I agree that something is off. She hasn’t been visiting anyone and either ignores messages or doesn’t respond for long periods. It’s just not like her. She actually almost missed Thanksgiving yesterday! Right now she doesn’t need my help for anything in her day to day life, but I know she is struggling financially. She’s come to the Blessing Box a few times for dog food.

Yeah, so this is my life right now. I am talking to a woman on OKC who lives one town over but I am not thinking we will have a meet up anytime soon. I guess we will see. She’s unicorn hunting for herself and her husband, which I don’t mind so much. I am interested to see how things - if things - progress. Just texting at the moment.

 

[Bluebird]

So I am chatting more with the woman on OKC. I’m enjoying the back and forth. Her husband reactivated his account and I was able to match with him as well. We’ve now got a good conversation flowing too.

DarkKnight has started Tech Week for Elf: the Musical and I am already missing him. I got him to get a ride home on Tuesday so I can go to SirGawain's house overnight. I'm glad I don't have to miss out! I'm also trying to give space to MisterMoonbeam so he has some breaks from me being all up in his business. He helped me organize and shift around totes of gifts yesterday, so that was nice. Sir Gawain helped a bit Saturday night as well. I had some people pick up yesterday, as some didn't need to be wrapped. I'm trying to move presents out just as fast as I can, as it really restricts movement in my house! From now until the weekend, it's a race to get everything in order as sponsors drop stuff off.

 

[Bluebird]

I now have a dinner date lined up with the husband tomorrow. I plan to drop DarkKnight at practice, go to dinner, and then go pick DarkKnight up from practice. I am actually looking forward to spending as much time as possible away from my house right now - gifts are piling up and I’m becoming claustrophobic!


I am always amazed at how generous my city is - and at how I manage to make things happen! The deadline isn’t until Saturday but my kitchen and living room are stacked to the ceiling. I had a box truck pull up today and drop off chairs, plastic dressers and cork boards this morning, and thankfully a local recovery group is coming soon to take some of it away. Lol My patio is stacked full and zoning would not approve.

I need some pets and scritches right now. Like, just a full on body hug and a hot tub. If I wasn’t worried about Christmas for my family I would go get a hotel room just so I can get into a garden tub and relax. It’s only going to get worse for the next week but then thankfully things will start easing up.

 

[Bluebird]

Oh I am so very tired. I am home from SirGawain’s house and I’ve dropped DarkKnight at work. I’ve been working on a post for my Random Acts of Christmas program, which starts today. I’ve decided to do a gas card giveaway, with one card given away each day. Each week I will change up how I choose winners. This week will be just choosing Facebook comments with a random number generator. I’m keeping it easy since I am too busy to be creative.

Today is my day off, but I have donors dropping off Christmas gifts for seniors this morning, and I have to deliver some directly this afternoon. I need to go buy some perfume in person that was requested by a teen (it’s cheaper at the store than on Amazon) and stop at a house to pick up a Christmas tree and decorations for that giveaway this weekend.

Yawwwwwwwn. I am going to go lay down for an hour and then shower. I have that date tonight, which I am excited for, but I don’t know what I am going to wear. At the moment I have no brainpower at the moment to figure it out!

 

[Bluebird]

So the date last night went well. We definitely meshed well and he’s a good kisser! I sent him my info today as far as what I do for safe sex, std testing, polyamory in general, etc. We had some dialogue and he didn’t bat an eye at SirGawain’s HsV-2 diagnosis. He says he has already reached out for a referral from his doctor for his STD testing. I texted bunches with his wife today and we are going on a date tomorrow night. As much as I am vibing with the husband, I am super excited to meet her. I sent her the same info, and it seems all really positive from her end as well.