Dragonlady
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im getting sick and tired of that girl.
we havent been married long and knew that he is poly ect.
she is 19 (where about 35) kicked out of her home, living with other people on and off ect, wich is sad.
she found a job and saving up to go to art school...
now here is the "fun" part (sorry im a very sarc person) she quite her job to spent the month here, not smart but oke, she is a adult im not in her relationship with her, not my problem.
i made a room in irder for her, put some lazy pants there for her, arranged shampoo and all the other stuff a person might need got her fav. candy.
put some drawing paper and my (very expensive) pencils on the table for her to use ect.
first week she doesnt do anything! just layed on the couch watched netflix, oke no bonus points. dont expect her to do anything in the household ect. but i think if you want to go to art school you doodle draw ect..
husband explains, she has BIG anxiety issues and stuff oke people have that i dont understand but oke..
and hubbie put us down to talk to each other! i made a effort the first 3 days to make friends ect and gave up after that, fine i dont need to be friends right?
now she is blaming me for not putting more effort in it ect because we have to get along ect. no we dont! im not having a relationship with her.
told hubbie i dont like her and that she is manipulating, wich he knows.
sure enough after 2 weeks she tells him she wants to stay longer.
(have to let you know the idea was that she would go to college here next year and living with us, wich i off course dont want annymore. i have no problem helping somebody ect but when you dont show that you want to get anywhere in life...) well he say's she cant and have to face her problems first.
he already almost broke up with her 3 times. and she keeps telling me she probably loves him more (like you can prove that stuff..) and we have to get along for him.
Sorry but i dont have to like you! but she just dont seem to get it..
am i so wrong here? please help, feels like im loosing my marbles.
told her honest what i think of it but she keeps twisting my words what is to be expected, and sorry but i got to old to defend myself against something like that, that is teen behavor..
sorry for the big patch of text, kinda getting it out of my system too
thanks for reading!
we havent been married long and knew that he is poly ect.
she is 19 (where about 35) kicked out of her home, living with other people on and off ect, wich is sad.
she found a job and saving up to go to art school...
now here is the "fun" part (sorry im a very sarc person) she quite her job to spent the month here, not smart but oke, she is a adult im not in her relationship with her, not my problem.
i made a room in irder for her, put some lazy pants there for her, arranged shampoo and all the other stuff a person might need got her fav. candy.
put some drawing paper and my (very expensive) pencils on the table for her to use ect.
first week she doesnt do anything! just layed on the couch watched netflix, oke no bonus points. dont expect her to do anything in the household ect. but i think if you want to go to art school you doodle draw ect..
husband explains, she has BIG anxiety issues and stuff oke people have that i dont understand but oke..
and hubbie put us down to talk to each other! i made a effort the first 3 days to make friends ect and gave up after that, fine i dont need to be friends right?
now she is blaming me for not putting more effort in it ect because we have to get along ect. no we dont! im not having a relationship with her.
told hubbie i dont like her and that she is manipulating, wich he knows.
sure enough after 2 weeks she tells him she wants to stay longer.
(have to let you know the idea was that she would go to college here next year and living with us, wich i off course dont want annymore. i have no problem helping somebody ect but when you dont show that you want to get anywhere in life...) well he say's she cant and have to face her problems first.
he already almost broke up with her 3 times. and she keeps telling me she probably loves him more (like you can prove that stuff..) and we have to get along for him.
Sorry but i dont have to like you! but she just dont seem to get it..
am i so wrong here? please help, feels like im loosing my marbles.
told her honest what i think of it but she keeps twisting my words what is to be expected, and sorry but i got to old to defend myself against something like that, that is teen behavor..
sorry for the big patch of text, kinda getting it out of my system too
thanks for reading!
