WhatHappened
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I am curious how a Muslim man has been okay with 'dating' a married woman?
Going to Pakistan
- Thread starter KerrBear
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In an earlier thread she said the Muslim wants her to divorce her husband so he can marry her and come live in the US.
KerrBear's threads are few and far between. Earlier she was poly and it helped her spice up her marriage. Now come to find out her husband rapes her and she's in love with this guy in Pakistan and monogamous.
IndieSolo
Active member
Ah, a green card marriage!
Inyourendo
New member
Its good you are leaving the kids with family for the summer, that will also give you a chance to secure a home for you and your kids. Just take things slow and wait at least several months before moving the new guy in. Kids need a chance to adjust to moving to a new country and getting through the divorce. I also suggest getting them into therapy while there
KerrBear said she is going to Pakistan for the summer. I don't know if she plans on moving there, or if her cyber bf wants to come here on a green card marriage. I don't think she is even divorced from her current husband yet.
She just sounds very, very confused.
At least the kids will be safe (I hope) with her parents while she wanders around the planet from her so called rapist to her oh so enlightened Muslim savior.
Inyourendo
New member
Im definitely glad the kids aren't going but I feel like it would probably be best that she hold off on this vacation until her kids are settled down. I can't imagine my parents going through a divorce while my mother goes off with some guy. I hope this doesn't cause abandonment issues for the kids.
YouAreHere
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After my divorce, I was in the house for 3 months with my ex, and when I finally found a house, it was only two miles up the street. Since my ex worked for the school and had WAY better hours to handle the kids' activities, they stay with him during the week. I spend time with them one weeknight (no overnight) and get them overnight every weekend. It's a better schedule than many divorced parents, and we're physically close enough that we can usually both attend school functions and cover for each other if needed.
That said, my youngest (who was 8 at the time) STILL had abandonment issues after I moved out. She asked multiple times why I moved out, she wanted to sleep in my bed... and she's still very sensitive to losing time with me, to this day. Daylight Savings Time threw her for a loop, when it didn't "feel" like it was time to go back to her dad's.
A divorce is a huge change for kids (well, for everyone, really). It may be worth some family counseling as you go through the process, KerrBear. The kids may enjoy a visit to the farm, but they may also have trouble with the separation from dad, and then you. You don't really know until you go through it.
I've recently heard of a white American woman who died in suspicious circumstances in Pakistan. They say it is a suicide but apparently there are doubts. She has white American children and their father is having trouble getting them back to the US because they are seemingly seen as the property of her Pakistani husband. I have no other details than that, but I really hope this isn't the OP of this thread. It probably isn't. I've thought of her often.
