Greetings, been attempting other places with no luck

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EMSinwestpa

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We are a M/F couple looking for a F. What we want is someone as a "best friend" not just a partner. My wife wants someone she can cuddle with and watch a movie, or maybe go wine tasting on a Saturday, or a paint n sip event a paint a beautiful picture with. She is very down to earth and doesn't need to spend a night on the town to have fun and honestly wouldn't really enjoy that anyways. She gets lonely because I work a lot and I support her having a friend to spend time with. But her rule is nothing sexual without me, so it has to be someone who is attracted to me as well, we don't have to touch every time but her rule is I will be there. We are in the Westerb PA area.
 
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Hard rules thin the candidates VERY quickly. Let's see what we have to work with...

First, she needs to have more friends. Women to hang out with, go shopping, etc.

And she needs to start dating. And (IMO) date a lot, & a variety. You two seem to have a lot of preconceptions that are untested against Reality -- so, start testing. Let your s/o get some practical experience at figuring out what she wants rather than left-over Harlequin Romance nonsense.

If she goes obsessive with the first woman she hangs out with, then avoid believing it's a "one in a billion" thing -- that notion indicates only delusion. At best, latching onto an early date says "wow, I have really low standards, & am just hoping I get lucky!!"

And after maybe a year of getting out of the house & having some fun, your s/o will find a likely candidate for an actual relationship. The subject of physical intimacy might appear... & maybe it'll all end right there. That's the chance you take, particularly if you are dating rather than mate-shopping.

But there'll be some who express an interest in her. THEN the topic must be brought up that you HAVE to be there -- & I'm only guessing, but likely a "one-penis policy," too.

And at that point the ones committed to open relating are likely gone. If you get to the point of intimacy, the "new girl" might find herself not particularly turned on by one (maybe both) of you. Would you be okay without sex (maybe at all), or is this really whatthe two of you want & are just dolling it up with all the talk of Romance & friendship?

You say "her rule is nothing sexual without me". Is YOUR rule "nothing sexual without her"?
 
Goodbye

Due to nothing but criticism I will be deleting the account, no one here has been "supportive", everyone who has send private messages or posted is bashing what we want. This is what we have talked about and what we want, we do not want the swinger lifestyle, we do not want hap hazard sexual contact with people, we want a friendship that may or may not move into sexual contact. Yes she wants a friend, yes the rule is sex will only occur when we are both there, does that thin the herd - yes, but that's what we want so if it's not what you are into then ignore the post and move onto what you want, we obviously know it's hard to find someone, we've been trying for a few years, problem is we find someone interested and they turn out to be someone who will never actually meet all they want is an email relationship, or pics back and forth for weeks at a time. I joined this site because it was suggested by another member whom I work with, I will make sure they see this post and realize just how unsupportive members are in their choose of the lifestyle and the rules they set forth for their relationships.

Thank you for nothing but being rude and unsupportive of what we are wanting and choosing.

Goodbye
 
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