bakemislaw
New member
Hello, I've been lurking for 3 months now.
No creeper.
Rant/Introduction:
My wife (25) and I (26) (w/ 2 kids) have been married for 6 years, (our relationship, sorry to say, is "jealous-inducing"; we are such close friends) She suggested four months ago, that she go on a date with a women (28 lesbian gender-queer) After a brief courtship they set me down and asked if I would be comfortable with a live-in-poly relationship: I, ever an optimist, looked at the benefits of said relationship (being a huge fan of line-marriage from an early age) and agreed. Slowly my wife has begun to, I wouldn't say push me away, but transform our (Wife and My) relationship to, secondary to her and GF. In fact I no longer sleep with either of them, or have sex at all. (been over a month) Jealous isn't the word I feel, just numb, and not loved, (in this case only) My wife and I have talked about how much she still needs me, and visa versa. And I believe her, after all we have been together for over a decade. I do not fear being told to leave, I have done nothing wrong (neither has GF for the matter) Our kids 4, and 2, simply adore the additional attention and love, they have come to call GF "Amma".
GF brings financial support, domestic support, and emotional support (Which words can not describe how much I love). I get along great with both of them as very close friends. All of our families are "gasp" supportive of our relationship!
The butt-hurt is; my wife told me less then a week ago, that since this relationship has begun, that she no longer is attracted to men as much as she is women, (no pain, no babies, softer, no fur, etc) And thusly would rather sleep/fool around with GF more than me.
To be selfish, I just want attention, getting plenty of love.
Very worse part for me is that, I sway bi, and GF is very masculine, causing me to crush very hard, but unfortunately she is very clear that is is a Lesbian, and not interested in men, although she has clearly hinted, that there is a remote chance of have a "three-way" with them in the future, and me, excuse me, being the, center piece. Until that day comes........
I guess what I want to rant about is; Is this a case of new partner energy, and my "poor male ego" is simply wounded?
I so very want this to work, I want to love both women as a "husband" and be a poppa to both children. It is tough going from the primary in a mono relationship, to the secondary in a poly relationship. When we all talk about the future I am always lovingly included. They both need/want me for the emotional stability that I am, just, not, physically.
How can I adore this so much, yet feel so crushed?
I love them being in-love together, and how their love has filled the children's hearts.
I hate being selfish.
Can anyone relate? There is no one to talk to, that I know, that understands, hence why I reached out to this forum. Hopefully with ya'lls help I can better come to terms with my new role as, Poppa, "Husband", and friend. Although even to my self, on paper it seems nothing has change.
Thank you for your time.
*"husband" used in context of provider, supporter, heavy lifter, strong shoulders, rough hands, etc
No creeper.
Rant/Introduction:
My wife (25) and I (26) (w/ 2 kids) have been married for 6 years, (our relationship, sorry to say, is "jealous-inducing"; we are such close friends) She suggested four months ago, that she go on a date with a women (28 lesbian gender-queer) After a brief courtship they set me down and asked if I would be comfortable with a live-in-poly relationship: I, ever an optimist, looked at the benefits of said relationship (being a huge fan of line-marriage from an early age) and agreed. Slowly my wife has begun to, I wouldn't say push me away, but transform our (Wife and My) relationship to, secondary to her and GF. In fact I no longer sleep with either of them, or have sex at all. (been over a month) Jealous isn't the word I feel, just numb, and not loved, (in this case only) My wife and I have talked about how much she still needs me, and visa versa. And I believe her, after all we have been together for over a decade. I do not fear being told to leave, I have done nothing wrong (neither has GF for the matter) Our kids 4, and 2, simply adore the additional attention and love, they have come to call GF "Amma".
GF brings financial support, domestic support, and emotional support (Which words can not describe how much I love). I get along great with both of them as very close friends. All of our families are "gasp" supportive of our relationship!
The butt-hurt is; my wife told me less then a week ago, that since this relationship has begun, that she no longer is attracted to men as much as she is women, (no pain, no babies, softer, no fur, etc) And thusly would rather sleep/fool around with GF more than me.
To be selfish, I just want attention, getting plenty of love.
Very worse part for me is that, I sway bi, and GF is very masculine, causing me to crush very hard, but unfortunately she is very clear that is is a Lesbian, and not interested in men, although she has clearly hinted, that there is a remote chance of have a "three-way" with them in the future, and me, excuse me, being the, center piece. Until that day comes........
I guess what I want to rant about is; Is this a case of new partner energy, and my "poor male ego" is simply wounded?
I so very want this to work, I want to love both women as a "husband" and be a poppa to both children. It is tough going from the primary in a mono relationship, to the secondary in a poly relationship. When we all talk about the future I am always lovingly included. They both need/want me for the emotional stability that I am, just, not, physically.
How can I adore this so much, yet feel so crushed?
I love them being in-love together, and how their love has filled the children's hearts.
I hate being selfish.
Can anyone relate? There is no one to talk to, that I know, that understands, hence why I reached out to this forum. Hopefully with ya'lls help I can better come to terms with my new role as, Poppa, "Husband", and friend. Although even to my self, on paper it seems nothing has change.
Thank you for your time.
*"husband" used in context of provider, supporter, heavy lifter, strong shoulders, rough hands, etc
