Hello Everyone :) Maybe advice?

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kcnp55

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Hello!!

My name is Kc :) I am here to learn more about poly. Understand more about it. Learn from others.

I just recently became engaged to the love of my life. We are both very open. For a while I was under the weather, couldn't have sex. We opened our relationship shortly before I got sick, so until recently I wasn't able to partake.

We met a wonderful lady just a couple weeks ago. It has moved fast for my partner, he got to know her more quickly. I have hung back a bit. In my head I can picture how wonderful it all could be. There is also a part of me that doesn't want to share certain parts of our relationship. I've never had anyone love me for me before. It's very overwhelming to think someone else could love me for me.

I am not very great at my emotions. I never have been. I keep a lot of stuff inside, at least I used to, not as much anymore since I met him. But thinking of adding another person, more emotions, another possibility of getting hurt just makes me wanna run and hide.

Anyways I am pretty sure this was suppose to be a greetings post. Haha, I may have done it wrong. Forgive me :)

I would love to just talk to someone. I don't really have anyone to talk to about stuff like this. Any help would be fantastic. :)

xo

Kc <3
 
Well, it's lovely that you're talking here :)

Welcome Kc.

Emotions are often very powerful, often they are subtle too. What they aren't is the sum total of who you are. They do not have to dictate to you your thoughts or actions. As a mental exercise, try having a chat with any given emotion as if it's personified, somewhat separate to you (like Inside Out the newish movie), seek to understand why it has appeared 'now' whenever that now is. When you understand that emotion, it may be easier to share it with others.

People hurt each other. People who love each other can hurt each other very easily. But we all know this isn't the whole story to love. There is so much else to feel besides hurt that I'd recommend loving, even knowing there is such great potential for hurt. But then love (which isn't, to me, an emotion but more a life force) is the very core of my identity, so I would say that ;)

Ka kite ano
Evie
 
Greetings kcnp55,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I can't think of any advice to give you right now, other than perhaps, don't let yourself be hurried along, take your time. There's a lot to learn about poly, so take advantage of Polyamory.com and see which of our threads and boards call to you.

I wonder if journaling would be helpful for you? We have a Life stories and blogs board where you could start your own blog if you want to. Sometimes just getting your thoughts and feelings written out can help you to sort, organize, and notice possible solutions.

Anyway those are some of my thoughts.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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