Hello everyone !

[Redgirl]

Hello everyone !
I am new here, but I know what I am since about 3 years. I was'nt prepared to
that thing that is called polyamory, but since that event, now, I have accepted it .
So, now, I'm still with my boyfriend, who is the father of my 3 boys, and we are together since 13 years. I'm 38, stay at home mother, a lot busy, but well with my self and about my polyamory side.

Now, I am looking for finding a another lover, maybe two, I don't know if I can mangage 3 lovers, but I have fallen for both of them. I was'nt prepared to find more than one another lover, so I a little bit uneasy, but, not that much .
I hope I will find some middle between every part of my life, be able to give enough space for every man who will be willing to share my life, and my way of beeing (I'm a little bit weird, but a funny one ), and be happy with that way of living. I don't know where this journey will go in a near future, but I am active in my resarchs and totally honest before dating anyone.

And, I need to tell you that english is not my first langage, so, sorry for my possible multiples errors, I do my best .

I hope to learn, to share with you about polyamory, with people who does'nt think that we are only obsessed with sex, lol

Happy to meet you,
Redgirl

 

[Evie]

Hello Redgirl

Welcome! Yes, here we know it is not all about sex.

And well done with your writing in English, that must be challenging, but please keep reading and writing here as this is a supportive community. I just have one question because of your tenses - I think you say you currently have 2 boyfriends, the father of your children and another. Is this right?

Finding a balance seems to be what most people are always working on I know that as I further integrate poly into my marriage, it will be with a focus on balance rather than boundaries.

best wishes
Evie

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Redgirl,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Re (from OP):

"I am looking for finding another lover, maybe two, I don't know if I can mangage three lovers, but I have fallen for both of them."

So, one or two other lovers is what you have (had) in mind, and two other lovers have come into your life, and you have fallen in love with them, and so, adding the boyfriend who is the father of your three sons, that's three lovers in total, even though three is a lot to handle. Am I understanding aright?

It seems to me that so far you are happy with the way things have gone, and, that your (three?) lovers are happy with the way things are too? If so, then I am happy for you, but if you need any help or have questions or concerns, just let us know and we'll try to help.

It's good to have you amongst us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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