hello eveyone. from Birmingham Alabama

[Kevinlee]

how's everyone doing me and my wife's kinda new to the lifestyle. I'm 32 straight she's 32 bi. and we're looking for a single woman that's like minded to talk to and see where it goes. our ultimate goal would be to add a third(closed triad) if the right one comes along

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Kevinlee,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Welcome to Polyamory.com and to the lifestyle. I hope you will find the single woman that you seek, if there's anything we can do to help let us know. Namaste!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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Welcome aboard!

 

[JaneQSmythe]

Hello, attractive couple!

Welcome to polyamory.com - I hope you find a lot of useful info here.

Since no one else (except Kevin, >Hi, Kevin!<) has been by to comment, I should probably let you know that what you are looking for (a single bisexual woman to be in a closed relationship with both of you at the same time - aka. a HBB = Hot Bi-Babe) is considered a Unicorn (i.e. a mythical creature that doesn't exist) and therefore you may be labelled as "Unicorn-Hunters". This doesn't mean that what you are seeking is a bad thing, just that it is the form of poly that most people new to the idea tend to seek, and the least likely to end well for anyone.

At some point, someone (it might as well be me) is going to point you to this article:
So, Someone Called You a Unicorn Hunter

Many of us have been there, got the T-shirt, learned our lesson - and then went on to have other healthy poly relationships.

TLR - Dating the same person at the same time does NOT minimize jealousy. Date separately. Bi-women will have more success in this than straight men (Sorry!).

JaneQ
(PS. If you were in my area and 10 years older, I would volunteer to be your unicorn just so you could practice with your training wheels on someone who won't be devastated when it doesn't work out!)

 

[Jeansandsneakers]

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Hello, attractive couple!

Welcome to polyamory.com - I hope you find a lot of useful info here.

Since no one else (except Kevin, >Hi, Kevin!<) has been by to comment, I should probably let you know that what you are looking for (a single bisexual woman to be in a closed relationship with both of you at the same time - aka. a HBB = Hot Bi-Babe) is considered a Unicorn (i.e. a mythical creature that doesn't exist) and therefore you may be labelled as "Unicorn-Hunters". This doesn't mean that what you are seeking is a bad thing, just that it is the form of poly that most people new to the idea tend to seek, and the least likely to end well for anyone.

At some point, someone (it might as well be me) is going to point you to this article:
So, Someone Called You a Unicorn Hunter

Many of us have been there, got the T-shirt, learned our lesson - and then went on to have other healthy poly relationships.

TLR - Dating the same person at the same time does NOT minimize jealousy. Date separately. Bi-women will have more success in this than straight men (Sorry!).

JaneQ
(PS. If you were in my area and 10 years older, I would volunteer to be your unicorn just so you could practice with your training wheels on someone who won't be devastated when it doesn't work out!)

Great post script

 

[fuchka]

Lol @ "Hello, attractive couple"

I wonder how often couples change their outlook after reading that article. It is a good article but is it convincing from the perspective of a couple starting out with hot bi babe dreams? I'm already converted (or, really, I was never into that anyway; my poly took a diff path), so it's hard to tell.

And then of course there are the (albeit rare) cases of that dynamic working out for people... So I'm not surprised that some folks might still hold out hope.

I like your gentle response @JaneQSmythe

And attractive couple @Kevinlee I wish you well, both individual and collectively