Greetings Johnny,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
I think this site can help you, with info and perspective. My opinion is that all relationships carry an element of risk. That's true of both monogamous and polyamorous relationships. It would certainly be to your advantage to try to date people who are themselves poly-inclined ... but even if you do, you may find that they aren't inclined to let
*you* be poly; they just want it for themselves.
This is not to prophecy doom, in fact it's more the opposite. You don't have to assume that it's hopeless for you to be poly; you just have to be patient and be willing to take some risks. Although your odds are probably a little better if you develop your relationships slowly ... but even then, the relationship could crash, like a trainwreck in slow motion. A lot depends on the compatibility of the people involved.
So, pluck up your courage and know that breakups are a part of our social environment. It's not necessarily your fault (or even poly's fault) when a breakup occurs. Just give yourself some time to recover, take care of yourself, and let yourself love again when the right time comes.
Hopefully that helps.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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