Hello from BC, Canada

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william81

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Hi All,

My name is Will', I live in BC and I'm quite new to polyamory. I've been dating my current partner for about a year now and we've been open - at least in spirit - from the beginning.

My previous relationship was a 10 year one, most of which was monogamous and very unhappy toward the end when we decided to open it up.

I'm having a little bit of trouble navigating the emotions I feel when my partner plays with others', so I'm here to share my stories and to hopefully gain some clarity and understanding for myself.

I love the idea of being happy for my partner to go and have fun with other people - and I really do - but there are so many other emotions to unpack on the way.

Anyway, hi everyone! I look forward to taking part in this community.
 
Welcome to the Forum Will.

As someone who has done some of the processing you've alluded too, I can say unpacking all this stuff is a bit of a chore, and can take a fair amount of time. It's not easy, and requires perseverance and effort.
However, it's entirely worth it, and extremely liberating once the baggage is finally unloaded.

You may also have an added bonus, depending on where you're located, as BC has several active IRL communities in various centres. If you want more info, feel free to PM me.
 
Greetings Will,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I checked out your other thread and posted a response. It sounds like jealousy is your big obstacle right now, and even if your mind knows polyamory is a great thing, your heart is yelling, "DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER!"

Take a deep breath and try to meditate your way through some of the fear. Where's it coming from? What's driving it? Heck, what does it feel like? How does it manifest itself?

I wish you the best and hope you'll enjoy your time on our site,
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Thanks kdt!

That's my issue at the moment and I know it's irrational, so I'm certain that I'll get through it. It's just nice to have a place to ask advice, read other people's stories and, I guess, just release the pressure.

This seems like a wonderful community, so while my immediate needs are somewhat limited, I look forward to actually being able to contribute something as well.

Cheers!
 
Cheers (and cool beans). :)
 
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