Hello from Houston (Polyandry/MFM)

[RenaissanceMan]

Hello everyone,

I've been using the website without an account for a while, but just now got around to creating one. I thought I'd go ahead and introduce myself.

I have a couple reasons for being interested in polyamory:

First, years ago, I was in a brief MFM relationship with an up to then monogamous M/F couple. It was a first time MFM experience for all of us. We were all having a great time, but I had career commitments that interfered and brought it to a close all too soon.

All three of us were great friends outside the bedroom, and she was a very satisfied, smiling queen when with her two attentive kings in the bedroom! It was a sexual vee (no male on male) and a friendship triad.

Since then, I've been hoping to fall into another of this type of relationship, or something similar, as it was the most liberating relationship I've ever experienced. But, so far, it hasn't happened.

My second reason for interest in polyamory is that I've grown 'date weary' of all the conditionality and/or suspicion that most single mono women bring to a relationship.

I'm thinking that poly women would probably not bring this level of conditionality or suspicion to a relationship.

As for me, I'm a semi-retired, single, unattached hetero, intellectual, white collar male in my 50s, but look like I'm in my early 40s.

Philosophically and emotionally, I'm a very laid back, non-jealous, somewhat independent male who's now looking to be poly-friendly, at least, and see where it takes me.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings RenaissanceMan,
Welcome to our forum.

Romance most often has a way of dropping out of the sky when we're not looking for it, and hiding in the depths of the earth when we are looking for it. "A watched pot never boils." So you may have to exercise considerable patience before your next MFM vee will materialize.

We do have a Dating & Friendships (North America) board where you can post an ad. Also I can provide various links for poly-friendly dating sites, and for finding local poly groups in your area; just say the word if you're interested.

In the meantime, you can keep reading as there is a ton of instructional stuff here -- and you can post any questions you might have and whatnot.

Good to have you with us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!

 

[JaneQSmythe]

Hello everyone,

Hello and Welcome!

All three of us were great friends outside the bedroom, and she was a very satisfied, smiling queen when with her two attentive kings in the bedroom! It was a sexual vee (no male on male) and a friendship triad.

This describes my household! (I get to be the smiling queen)

My second reason for interest in polyamory is that I've grown 'date weary' of all the conditionality and/or suspicion that most single mono women bring to a relationship.

I'm thinking that poly women would probably not bring this level of conditionality or suspicion to a relationship.

My boyfriend, Dude, would agree with you here. Both of his girlfriends are poly-bi-married women. After a lifetime of dating single woman he says he is only dating married women from now on

(We have a suspicion that people who are in happy stable relationships have cultivated "good relationship skills" that translate well into poly relationships as well...proven runners, you might say.)

Philosophically and emotionally, I'm a very laid back, non-jealous, somewhat independent male who's now looking to be poly-friendly, at least, and see where it takes me.

Sounds like you have the right attitude and a positive experience under your belt to boot. Keeping your eyes and your mind open can do wonders. As an introvert I don't have any experience "looking for" partners, they have always just kind of fallen in my lap. Dude says he met all of his previous partners in other people's living rooms or basements (including me )

JaneQ

 

[RenaissanceMan]

Romance most often has a way of dropping out of the sky when we're not looking for it, and hiding in the depths of the earth when we are looking for it. "A watched pot never boils." So you may have to exercise considerable patience before your next MFM vee will materialize.

Thanks for the welcome and the info, Kevin.

Yes, generally, I have lot's of patience... except it's often tested where this topic is concerned !

This describes my household! (I get to be the smiling queen)

Hi Jane. I'm glad you're getting it "your way" with your 2 kings !

(I could add another 2 BK hamburger related references to this but I'm not sure if it would pass the censors !)

My boyfriend, Dude, would agree with you here. Both of his girlfriends are poly-bi-married women. After a lifetime of dating single woman he says he is only dating married women from now on

It sounds like Dude and I have had similar experiences. It's good to know I may be on the right track.

Sounds like you have the right attitude and a positive experience under your belt to boot. Keeping your eyes and your mind open can do wonders. As an introvert I don't have any experience "looking for" partners, they have always just kind of fallen in my lap.

Yes, my experience in looking for partners hasn't been bad, but it could be better, especially where couples are concerned. I'm not the best at reading people prior to the chat up. My experience seems to show there's a lot more vanilla people out there than statistics indicate !

The couple I hung out with brought the subject up with me, so it "fell into my lap." But it's easier for a married couple to bring the subject up with a single guy than the other way around.

 

[Loverofall]

AMEN Kevin T.

Greetings RenaissanceMan,
Welcome to our forum.

Romance most often has a way of dropping out of the sky when we're not looking for it, and hiding in the depths of the earth when we are looking for it. "A watched pot never boils." So you may have to exercise considerable patience before your next MFM vee will materialize.

We do have a Dating & Friendships (North America) board where you can post an ad. Also I can provide various links for poly-friendly dating sites, and for finding local poly groups in your area; just say the word if you're interested.

In the meantime, you can keep reading as there is a ton of instructional stuff here -- and you can post any questions you might have and whatnot.

Good to have you with us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!

Yes, things to seem to come out of nowhere! This was a great line to hear today, thank you. RM nice to meet you!!

 

[playfulgirl]

Hi I'm in Houston too. Welcome.
I know when my metamour is looking for new boyfriends she often uses swinger sites like couples touch to find meet and greets or okcupid to find folks of a like mind. They seem to work for her. Just be dead honest as for what you are looking for and know that there will always be some troll responses.

 

[RenaissanceMan]

RM nice to meet you!!

Thanks Loverofall!

Hi I'm in Houston too. Welcome.
I know when my metamour is looking for new boyfriends she often uses swinger sites like couples touch to find meet and greets or okcupid to find folks of a like mind. They seem to work for her. Just be dead honest as for what you are looking for and know that there will always be some troll responses.

Hi PlayfulGirl, and welcome, from one new member to another.

Yes, I've had some success with online dating websites through the years, but with single women and mono relationships. We'll see how it goes as I explore the poly world and look for new relationships that are more open minded and adventurous. Condition filled mono relationships just haven't been totally satisfying for me.

Thanks everyone.