Hello from Michigan

ClaraOswald

ClaraOswald

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Hi, I'm Clara, 34, married to Capaldi, 37, for 11 years (together 14). I have a son from an earlier mistake in judgement & we have 5 kids together. Ages range from 14 down to 6 months.

Until very recently, I knew nothing about polyamory. Stumbled across it a few months after we opened our home to a coworker of his who was (and still is) in a tight spot due to his divorce. Moog is 42 & has 2 teenage sons with his ex.

I'm not entirely certain when I started having feelings for Moog. Although, knowing me, it may very well have started out as something along the lines of "love at first sight". Or at least after spending a little bit more time getting to know him, lol. We are not currently in what I would consider a fully poly V, and I'm not sure that we will be, but that's what I would ideally like to see happen. I've been lurking here for a few weeks & decided it couldn't hurt to join up & chit chat with you all. :-D

Hopefully, this is as good an intro as any.
 
Greetings Clara,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Your intro seems fine, hopefully we can be of some help as you work through the early stages of poly. Have you talked about it with Capaldi yet? with Moog? If so, what's their response/s?

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Another Whovian!! *high fives*

I actually saw Jenna Coleman (Clara), Alex Kingston (River), and John Barrowman (Capt. Jack Harkness) at Denver Comic Con about 2 weeks ago. I only got in line for an autograph with John, because long lines and $$$ for sigs isn't really my thing (it's Zen's thing, he collects autographs) and I think I annoyed John by mentioning that I liked Torchwood before it got rather dark there in the last two seasons. He rather irritably snapped at me that "it had to change because it's not Doctor Who." Um...fine? lol

Whateva.

The reason I paid for his autograph though, is that his panel basically MADE Comic Con for me (aside from just spending happy quality time with Zen and meeting his friends)...out of all the experiences having directly to do with the Con itself, John Barrowman's panel was just the best. He's hilarious and delightful.

I'm told that Jenna seemed a bit overwhelmed. It's possible (likely from what I saw/heard) that she's a quieter and slightly more introverted soul, and the massive crowds at CC are just a bit much for her, though altitude sickness might also have played a part in the mile high city.

Alex on the other hand is a lot like she comes off on the show, she radiates confidence and energy and it's like she's a bright sun, flirting with the world without even trying.

Anyhow welcome!!! :)
 
It's a very complicated situation, for sure. They both know of my interest. Capaldi was initially okay with the idea of polyamory, but I think a) it was more in theory & b) since I moved a little too quickly getting intimate with Moog, things kinda went south. We've recovered from that, as well as a vicious lie started by the husband of an ex-friend of mine, but it has kind of left at least that much of the relationship between Moog & me hanging. Moog was definitely okay with the idea. Although, he has told me that he doesn't see himself not ending up married again (as in a more traditional mono relationship), so I'm not sure on the long term picture that I would like to see happen.

Even more recently, Moog's oldest son, with or without interference from his mother, has been angry with him about the living arrangements. As a friend, I have tried to reach out to his ex simply so he might get more chances to hang out with his kids, but she tends to be a bit of a wench. His younger boy is in a band that recently played at a local park. I had intended to go before I was aware it was his son's group, but after finding that out I thought it would be a good chance to actually meet his boys & their mom in person. Yeah...not so much. And, apparently, when Moog gets nervous he lets things slip. Like the fact that his buddy's wife has a crush on him. :-/ So now, given the issues that my interference seems to have caused/exacerbated, he's beginning to think he should move out. Which neither Capaldi or I really believe he can do financially. So he's even more stuck between a rock & a hard place. I'm not sure where things can go between us at this point.

On the plus side, Capaldi was cool with the reading material I "assigned" him once I finished reading it (More Than Two).


Spork ~ That is awesome that you got to see Clara, River, & Capt. Jack. :-D
 
Sorry to hear about the complications. Maybe polyamory is just food for thought for the moment. Moog seems to not be able to handle it very well. :(
 
I guess we'll have to wait and see. I, for one, am happy with where things are at now. For the most part. And since neither of the balls are in my court, there's not too much I can do. It's up to both the guys. I'll just have to learn a bit more patience & hope for the best. Plus, not be so tag-happy on FB. I think that's what may have complicated issues with Moog's oldest more than they were to begin with.
 
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