Hello from NYC (:

[Cyanabi]

Hi everyone. Former lurker, now finally brave enough to create an account and introduce myself. For the time being, my name is Cya (I hope it’s okay I don’t share my real name for the time being?) and I’m your run-of-the-mill mid-20s bi lady living in the big city with a cranky old cat.

Currently, I’m solo poly after tiring of the suffocation of monogamy and realizing I was kinda mindlessly going up the relationship escalator without really understanding how I was feeling. So, after around a year alone, I decided to try polyamory and a different way of viewing relationships at this point in my life.

As of now, I am dating through OKC and have a wonderful boyfriend who I have been with since the summer. It has been a real learning experience, especially because he has a wife and child. I have really had to learn how to advocate for myself and my needs, which is always something I have had difficulties with. I am happy with how far I have come, and I hope I can learn so much more by being here.

Thanks if you read all this nonsense, it’s really nice meeting everyone!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Cya,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Don't worry, you don't have to share your real name, I would say most of the people here go by their username and/or a nickname. It sounds like you have come to the point of poly in a wise and sensible way, your boyfriend sounds like a great guy. I hope you will learn a lot by being here, let us know if you have any questions. It's great to have you with us!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!

 

[JaneQSmythe]

Hello and Welcome to the Forums, Cya from NYC!

I agree with Kevin - wise and sensible to realize that you are "going through the motions" and getting on the relationship escalator by auto-pilot and make the conscious decision to step off and explore your options! Color me suitably impressed

Learning how to advocate for yourself and your needs will stand you in good stead in MANY areas - family, friends, relationships, work, etc.

Real names are unnecessary, we will get to know you by your stories, whatever handle you choose to use.

Jane ("run-of-the-mill-middle-aged-bi-lady-living-in-the-country-with-2-boys-and-a-dog")Q

 

[Al99]

Hi Cya - and welcome! Yeah - as Jane and Kevin have mentioned, almost no one - if anyone- uses their real full name here (maybe their real first name). This is a wide open public forum, searchable by Google - so discretion is generally a good idea.

Please feel free to join in the conversation with any specific questions and thoughts that you may have - and we will look forward to hearing more of your story.

My wife and I love visiting NYC!

Best of luck on your journey!

Al