Hi, I'm a married woman from Australia with 1 gorgeous little boy and another soon to join our family in a couple of months. I'm married to my high school crush and we've always been mono. I have thought about polyamory for a while as I am bisexual but it's something hubby and I are only talking to each other about more recently. I'm looking forward to chatting to others who are like minded before we think about taking steps into this new realm. There is a group not far from me but I'm very cautious about who I meet in person and would rather chat to people online first. Any other Aussies out there please do say hi, I'd love to chat to you as polyamory isn't all that common down this end of the world.
Greetings Rosaliedawn,
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Polyamory isn't very common even in the United States, so you will find many on this site who will sympathize with your situation. Not that there's anything wrong with monogamy per se, but that polyamory is okay too. Anyway I think you will find many like-minded individuals you can talk to here.
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I just want to say that time is a limited resource, so if you have two (or more) partners, something has to give. Either one or both partners has to settle for less of your time, or you have to settle for less me time. This is one of the reasons why poly isn't for everyone, but it does work for some.
Ha, I have no freakin' idea how I do. And since I'm currently a world of warcraft addict as well..... (but I play that with bf and gf a lot since they are LD) I just .. make it work?
And I live in Texas. BEST STATE IN THE NATION. Yes I'm biased. Yes I'm ok with this.
But Kevin is right. Time is limited. I think one benefit is that hubby and I have always been individuals with our own hobbies and such, so I end up home alone spending time with bf/gf while he's out with friends or playing sports. And then we'll do things together or with the fam too.
I'd say that being at a time of life where you are about to have a newborn and a toddler is not the best time to start practicing polyamory. Kids take up so much time. You will be in NRE (new relationship energy) with your new baby, so handling NRE with a new partner would be very draining and hard to manage, IMO.
Maybe if you are breastfeeding, you could join La Leche League. I was involved in that group for many many years. It's a great place to feel intimate and connected with other women. No sexual aspect at the meetings of course, but you never know... eventually you might bond romantically with another bi mom, or poly lesbian mom, if you exchange numbers and start meeting one on one as friends.
If you're not breastfeeding, there are other moms' groups out there of course. I recommend mother's groups since your kids will keep you so busy at least until they are in school. You will be with other busy mothers who understand your life. And if you're also working outside the home, you'll of course being going nuts just balancing marriage, job and kids. I didnt work outside the home much, besides being a volunteer Leader (group facilitator/lactation specialist) for LLL, and a little part time work now and then as a florist. I homeschooled my kids from K-12 so I rarely got a break until my youngest was 5 and we felt comfortable getting teen babysitters and/or leaving them with aunts or grandparents who lived far out away from our state.
