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bumblebee

bumblebee

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Hello Beautiful Poly People!

I have been an infrequent browser here fo a couple of years, but have never made any posts.

I am female, bi with predominantly straight tendencies, just turned 44 last week and 100% heart and body wired for poly for as far back as I can remember. I can recall having poly thoughts in my heart as an eight year old, and just not knowing there was a word for it and a community of others who feel the same way. (I suppose back then, their actually was not the word "polyamory")

I am in the 14th year of a poly living together relationship with the man who is my best friend and father of my two youngest boys. We continue to be head over heals in love with and head spinning attracted to each other. But there always has been a discrepancy in the level of openness we are comfortable with in our relationship. I am more comfortable with the openness than him and he also prefers a slower pace with things than I do.

The two of us have been having some pretty heavy conversations lately. It feels like a good time to make an introduction for me because I appreciate that you are all here as a resource to reach out to. I have many amazing and open minded friends and family in my offline life that I can truly talk to about anything, but most of them do not have the element of polyamory in their lives.

Thanks polyamory.com for being here ⭐️⭐️⭐️
 
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Hi Bumblebee, and welcome here, even though you've been here lurking much longer than I have :)

I love that you always identified with the idea of open love - to me that is beautiful!
 
Oh BrianneGoddess! The timing of you comment is perfect because I just finished reading your introduction and then immediately noticed your comment on mine.

Big hearted best wishes for the journey you are on right now. Reading the description of your husband's reaction to the situation made my heart so happy for the two of you. It points to a lot of compassion and respect for you as an individual. I think those are such important things in any relationship, but especially important tools to have in a polyamory toolbox.

Good Luck Love!
 
Thank you for your kind words. We hit a bit of a bump here the last few days, but he seems to be trying so very hard to come to grips with this all. (The man jokingly refers to my mid life crisis)

Today is not a good day, but I'm trying to move forward, not dwell on what is probably never going to be (sob) and as long as he can do it with me, I think I will be okay. With time.

Thanks for the luck - on your thread too, you clearly have a lot of compassion and love to give :) It's great to see that you and your partner are still so much in love. "head spinningly" - I really adore that saying! It's great to hear that it is possible, esp with kids in the mix :)
 
Greetings bumblebee,
Welcome to our forum. Glad we have been helpful so far.

I'm guessing that you'll find you can help lots of other people too; you have some experience and a good heart. Let us know if you have any questions, concerns, or whatnot.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Thanks Kevin :)
 
Hey look everybody! I figured out how to add the descriptive signature thing at the bottom of my posts!!!
 
Yay another poly person from Colorado! I love this state.

Well. Not the WHOLE state, I mean, ... I don't have TIME to love ALL of ya...

:D

But seriously though I think it's cool to see a number of people here who are in the same general region. :cool: In addition to the many poly folks I know in the community here, who are generally pretty awesome. Nice to meet ya bumblebee! *waves*
 
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