I have only read the OP, but I think it's not a matter of being "better" in bed. I don't think my husband is better in bed than anyone else, per se. He's just the only man (out of dozens) who's ever given me a vaginal orgasm. I think it's just the shape of his penis. I don't think there is anything any guy could do to give me one if he's not hitting that right spot over and over again.