OK so maybe u ppl can help me. My fiancee's gf just left today after a 2 week visit to the U.S to meet my fiancee and now my fiancee is broken hearted n all I wanna do is scoop her up into my arms n hold her. I held her earlier but I don't wanna come on too strong. And on top of that, ppl don't understand that in our relationship, my fiancee can do whatever she wants. I don't care as long as she's happy. But I'm still allowed to hurt sometimes, right? I'm just frustrated.. Any ideas?
help please??
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Is your fiancée's girlfriend still your fiancée's girlfriend? Have they broken up? or was it just the end of the time her girlfriend had available for visiting at this time?
Why don't you ask your fiancée if she wants you to hold her? Heck, why not tell her you could use a hug if you're hurting too?
As for people not understanding, poly and open relationships (and RA for that matter) are sadly not accepted in mainstream society and probably won't be for a long time.
Would it help to blog your feelings? We have a Life stories and blogs board. Would it help to write a letter to your fiancée?
Let us know however we can help.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
Why don't you ask your fiancée if she wants you to hold her? Heck, why not tell her you could use a hug if you're hurting too?
As for people not understanding, poly and open relationships (and RA for that matter) are sadly not accepted in mainstream society and probably won't be for a long time.
Would it help to blog your feelings? We have a Life stories and blogs board. Would it help to write a letter to your fiancée?
Let us know however we can help.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
It was the end of her available time over here. She lives in the UK. Ty for ur help. U made me think.. I'm afraid of hurting her worse by holding her. I can't read her. That's my problem.I just get down on myself for not knowing what she wants.. I will try what u suggested though. Thank u again.
Welll....you see she is hurting. Could tell her that , say you are sorry she hurts and ask how she wants to be comforted or offer basic comfort like "Can I get you anything? Food? A blanket?"
http://goodlifezen.com/21-ways-to-comfort-a-friend-in-crisis/
To see she is hurting and not ask is ignoring her pain. How is that kind?
I get you feel awkward but you do not learn how to become more comfortable offering comfort til you get in there and do it to loose the awkwardness. It is a skill you grow intentionally.
GL!
Galagirl
http://goodlifezen.com/21-ways-to-comfort-a-friend-in-crisis/
To see she is hurting and not ask is ignoring her pain. How is that kind?
I get you feel awkward but you do not learn how to become more comfortable offering comfort til you get in there and do it to loose the awkwardness. It is a skill you grow intentionally.
GL!
Galagirl