Hey Dudes :)

[KommandoKai]

Hey there, im Kai, 26yo from Bundaberg Australia.
I am a Bisexual male in a supportive relationship with a bisexual woman. We share many world views in common as well as similar views on monogomy. Actually our first conversation was about our shared bisexuality lol so almost 7 months on and we have been having regular often in depth discussions about sexual and phycological pullfillment. She is hugely supportive of my wish to be with a man, to form an intimate secondary relationship even and its towards this that we have been focusing on although we both want her to experiance herself too. We both wish the two halves of my life to be united at the same time for the first time in my life.
Being new to all this, not really knowing how to go about it we are feeling around in the dark at the moment, unsure how to procede but knowing we want to. How to deal with the inevitable jealousy? How to distinguish the relationships between my primary and my secondary? How much time is too much time to spend with the other person? Etc etc kind of questions we have rattling around our brains.. we look foward to reading much more on this forum and sharing our story also ...
Peace

 

[Magdlyn]

I'd recommend reading as many threads here as you can, and also read at morethantwo.com. Yours are very basic common questions. Welcome to the board, it's a great resource!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Kai,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

To deal with jealousy you have to dig down to find the root cause of it. Sometimes it's not so obvious, you think what's on the surface is the cause but that isn't always the case. As for how to distinguish between primary and secondary, that varies from one relationship to another, you have to decide for yourself how to do that in your case. And how much time to spend with the other person, has to be decided based on trial and error. Certainly it helps to be conscious of the possibility that you might be spending too much time with the one person or the other. Everyone's needs are different, so one person might not need as much time with you as the other.

Hope that helps, let us know of other questions you may have.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[Al99]

Welcome, Kai! - I've only been here a couple of months myself - and new to poly as well, but have found everyone to be very welcoming and helpful - with lots of sound advice and good information.

As Magdlyn pointed out, you have some very common poly questions that undoubtedly have been discussed in depth on this forum. I would recommend using the search feature at the top of the forum page to do some key word searches that pertain to your questions. There are over 200K posts archived on this forum - likely that you will find some good advice buried in those!