Ok.
You don't sound like you told hinge to stop hanging out with Friend, just no naked cuddling if Hinge plans to keep dating you. For you, that's a dealbreaker. Hinge is free to keep cuddling the friend naked. They just don't get to date you if they choose that. You get to choose who you will and will not date.
Why would it be your job to talk to Friend about why Hinge stopped hanging out with them, rather than Hinge telling them why Hinge stopped hanging out with Friend?
Why is it your job to ask Friend what their intentions towards Hinge are? Can't Hinge ask that?
If Hinge initiated the naked cuddle, isn't it on Friend to ask Hinge what THEIR intentions toward Friend are, what is being offered, what the deal is?
If Friend consented to go there and their feelings get hurt, because they thought it was more than it was, or because Hinge actively misled them, why do YOU have to worry about it? Isn't that Friend's worry and thing to deal with?
YOUR worry would be "Why am I dating Hinge? Who behaves like this to people and misleads them?"
The personal boundaries/emotional boundaries here seem weird. I could be wrong in that impression, but I am concerned that Hinge could be fobbing their jobs onto you. Or maybe you just pick them up, and Hinge doesn't bother to correct you on that, even though you overstep, because they LIKE you doing their work for them. They get to coast.
Isn't it on (Hinge + Friend) to manage their relationship, whether it is a platonic friendship, FWB, partners, whatever? It is not your responsibility to manage other people's relationships for them. You could focus on (you + Hinge) and figure out if this relationship is one you are happy participating in, or not.
GG
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