hi from an accidental polyamorous one

shiru

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hi everybody!
I'm shiru and i have been in a polyamorous relationship for about 4 months now. Even though i had a lot of doubts and fears in the beginning of this wonderfull adventure I have allways embraced the idea.

I call myself an accidental polyamorist because none of us had planned on ending up in this situation, nor had any experience being in one.

Allthough I'm not entirely sure of the technical terms for it I believe my situation at this moment could be described as a triad.

We're not very public about it but some of our close friends and family are aware of the situation, most of them reacted quite possitive (and i am very thankfull for that ;) )

I'm here to meet fellow minded people, support and perhaps get supported in times of confusion (it would be a giant lie to say those don't occur, wouldn't it? ;) )

feel free to ask me any odd questions so i can ask some in return, i love to get to know new people
 
Greetings shiru,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

A triad is a group of three people where, all three, each of them are romantically (possibly sexually) involved with the other two. Now if two of the three people are not romantically involved with each other, then it is called a V. Just wanted to point that out to help you with the technical terms. I take it there are three people in your polycule? Do you all three live together?

Glad you could join us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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well then i am indeed in a triad :) I'm still reading up on the technicallities right now but it's all starting to make sense
 
well then i am indeed in a triad :) I'm still reading up on the technicallities right now but it's all starting to make sense

If you'd like, explain who you are involved with and how it happened. You say you're 4 months in... did you meet both your partners simultaneously? Were they a couple before you met them?

Are you female identified?

You could also explain if your partners are a woman and a man. Or two other women. Or two men. Or some other alternative gender. In this day and age, we don't want to mis-gender or mis-pronoun anyone!

Some members put that info in their signature. Things can get so confusing. It's also helpful to have nicknames for your partners (not mere initials, that is hard to remember).

We have a glossary for poly terms in our general info section.
 
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