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confusedtink

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Hello. I finally stopped lurking. I've been reading around the forums for a few weeks now. I'm in my 30's and married for almost 10 years. I spoke to my husband recently about opening things up and today we really had a better conversation then the last one. This is the first time I haven't felt like I have a pit sitting inside my stomach. I don't know how all of this is going to work out, but I just mostly wanted to say thank you for all of what you have posted as it was of tremendous help.

Tink
 
Hi Tink,

Welcome! I'm glad your conversation got you to a happier place.

Love your nickname too; I went to school with a Tink (actually Caroline), everyone called her that, including her parents.

All the best
Evie
 
Wishing you guys good luck!
 
thanks

Thanks. It's not my actual name, but thought it would be cute. :) Kids like Tinkerbell.

I do have a question. Have any of you gone about expressing interest in someone in your daily life? Also how?

Tink
 
Yes yesterday... we talk about it regularly when we are not busy, wife is fussy though, she likes blondes with boobs, I have to like the person, their character, who they are
 
sorry

Sorry. I should have been more clear. I meant how have you expressed to that person of your interest? My husband already knows.

Tink
 
Yes, shot down a few, had a gf try to break us up once. She had one, had a fantasy to seduce a guy, I said, go ahead, she did, finally had some wild truck sex and told him it was ok to see her... he bailed on her... sucked, could have been real good, we are both still friends with the guy, but no sex
 
Hi Tink, welcome aboard.

Re (from confusedtink):
"Have any of you gone about expressing interest in someone in your daily life? Also how?"
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The few times I've ever expressed that to the person that interested me, I did it in a note (or an email).
 
I had been friends with Jack for many years before we were friends with benefits and now partners. We also flirted a lot as friends. When I brought up the idea of us being FWB, I texted him (we were/are long distance). Pretty much: "Hey, I want to see you again soon. Should I bring a 24 pack of condoms or 48? ;)" I also let him know that Roger was okay with it. Needless to say, he took me up on the offer...:D
 
oh my

Oh my. :) Well I have to be honest, this isn't just an open up to a sexual thing. I really like this guy as far as I know him at this point. I want to know him more. I'm more worried about what his whole view on the dating a married woman thing would stand, especially because him and my husband have a volunteering relationship I suppose you could call it. They are on a board together for little league, so they have a friendly relationship. I also don't want to make it awkward for him either. I think I have an idea on how I want to bring it about, but it's really about having the nerve and being cautious about it I think. My husband was actually the one who mentioned that and I definitely agree with him.

Tink
 
reflections said:
I had been friends with Jack for many years before we were friends with benefits and now partners. We also flirted a lot as friends. When I brought up the idea of us being FWB, I texted him (we were/are long distance). Pretty much: "Hey, I want to see you again soon. Should I bring a 24 pack of condoms or 48? ;)" I also let him know that Roger was okay with it. Needless to say, he took me up on the offer...:D
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hahaha, that's brilliant!
 
@ Tink ... maybe in a conversation you have with this guy, at some point you say, "Hey, would it be okay if we got to know each other better? My husband would be okay with it." I don't know, it's hard to know how to bring that up with someone.
 
😊

Yes. I was thinking something along those lines. Thank you. 😊 Once I figure out the when I think I will be ok. In the meantime I'm still trying to gauge where he might fall on the idea.

Tink
 
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