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Sun80Moon88

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Greetings from most likely across the pond! I am not sure where to start, but this is an Introduction page after all right?

You can call me T, a female in my late 20's who has had so much life experiences already. I left everything I had in the U.S.A and left to live in another here in North Africa. My dream is to make it back to America sometime before I start making a family. I am newly married to a man I met here. We have been together for 3 years, but only married in July 2016. I found someone who I completely opened myself to, and don't have to hide certain aspects of my wants and desires from.

Him, Call him N, he is a male in his late 30's. He spent the majority of his life in the same areas, and never traveled abroad. That was until T showed up, and changed his world for the better! Imagine living your whole life thinking about the things you want, but everyone who even hints at that type of lifestyle is shunned and looked down upon, or worst in his case where the government can lock-up and jail individuals who don't abide by their idea of normal. T confided her wants and desires to N after almost 2 years of dating and his eyes opened knowing there were others like him!

We married in July 2016, and now we are happier than we have ever been, but we are still wondering if there is something we are missing as individuals in the relationship or as a unit. T is a bisexual who has been in many various relationships with males and females, while N has been in an unhappily marriage with an Arabic woman (T is Western) and it was impossible for him to open up about his desires without the threat of divorce or worse. Eventually his marriage of many years ended in divorce once he realized there was no love or respect left in the relationship. He is open to EVERYTHING as his has a hunger for life and all experiences that comes with it. T on the other-hand had so much love in her heart that it runs over at times. She introduced N to Poly and websites and the idea and lifestyle there within, but we don't know what to expect, but hoping to meet like-minded individuals and share stories and advice.

This is us taking our first steps into the poly lifestyle and hope to find it as wonderful as we imagine. Although we do note nothing without struggle is worth having, and know it doesn't come easy, but we await for whats ahead.

Thank you for reading T and N's introduction, and hope to hear from you with welcomes or questions =)
 
Hi T. Did you write this post with your bf N?

It is recommended in our rules that you each have your own account. It makes it much easier for others here to understand your posts and respond appropriately.

"Couple privilege" is a problem in polyamory. We need to speak as individuals. If you are "Sun" and he is "Moon" (or vice versa) perhaps you could let this account rest and each post as Sun80 or Moon88 separately. Initials for names are also confusing (T&N).

Welcome! I am glad you are both finding much personal growth and are ready for new fulfilling adventures, despite living in a country where polyamory and other alternative sexualities are a crime. Good luck.
 
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Hello again! Thanks for the reply, I did write it with my husband, as I believe not many here would understand French or Arabic, as those are the languages he knows. We are still working on his English.

We saw that recommendation that we should each have an account, but because of his language barrier and our desire to be open and transparent we decided on using the one account.

I'll have him write a short intro below in his native script and see if anyone can understand it. If not, then you know why we opted for a single account and I'll act as translator when need be.

slt ana n7eb nt3aref 3la nes y5amou kifi ana wmarti ykounou y7ebou el3ala9at elmaftou7a kenek fhemtni 9oli chniya eta9es 3ndkom

Trying to avoid "couples privilege" as you put it, but since we are here trying to learn as much as we can, we don't see the harm, and he wouldn't be able to manage an account by himself. It's nothing like I'm trying to take his voice away - quite the contrary since I am the one introducing him to this all. If it would be better to use Sun80 for him and Moon88 for me, then I don't see a problem arresting the message to one or the other, but I will still need to translate unless that message is written in French or Arabic.

Thank you again for the welcome, and we do want to learn from you all. It is really hard to have this lifestyle when in a country that jails and worse for those of us trying to step outside of the perceived normal.

We hope to move to the back to the States sometime soon, if all goes well.

Sun80 & Moon88
 
Hello again! Thanks for the reply, I did write it with my husband, as I believe not many here would understand French or Arabic, as those are the languages he knows. We are still working on his English.
That is a valid reason of course :) Welcome on board.
 
OK, understood!

I hope you two can move to the US soon!

I don't know much French, but bienvenue and bon chance!
 
Greetings T (and N),
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I think it's brave of you both to part ways with the norm, especially at risk of severe punishment. I hope N will get his visa soon so you can return to America. And we'll try to be helpful and supportive here.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
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