How to treat anniversaries within a triad?

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Sofi

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It's Lore & Finn's 5th wedding anniversary this week, and I guess I'm not sure how we should treat it. Lore and Finn are doing something to celebrate, which is fine, but I'm not sure how I'm expected to treat it. I feel like if I ignore it, that's a bit weird and a bit rude, and if I treat it like I was just their friend, that would be odd too, but I'm not sure what else to do. It's also hard because I am physically so far away from them, so I can't even go and visit them. I kind of thought we had this covered because with having had Lore's, E's and my birthday all in the past few months, it would be similar to that, but it's not at all really, so I've discovered.

What does everybody else do during anniversaries not involving them?
 
I'd just send them a cute card and wish them a lovely day.
 
I think it would be simpler to ask Lore and Finn. Tell them

I feel like if I ignore it, that's a bit weird and a bit rude, and if I treat it like I was just their friend, that would be odd too, but I'm not sure what else to do.
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Tell them that you are not sure what the expectation or want is there -- and you would like clarification.

Then you could know what to do in your situation not just this time, but in future.

Galagirl
 
My V all live together, but each of the guys just says "Happy Anniversary!" And leaves it at that. The couple celebrates by doing whatever - dinner out, a trip, etc.
 
Hi Sofi,

Re (from OP):
"What does everybody else do during anniversaries not involving them?"
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I personally just keep a low profile and let my two companions do whatever they'd like to on their (wedding) anniversaries. Of course, I'm not big on celebrating any occasion, be it Christmas, Easter, birthdays, or whatever. So I don't think my companions expect anything, and they don't seem to mind. [shrug] Such is life in our home.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
I steal the kiddos for the night so they have no worries kid free time together.
Granted I do this for my close friends as well.

Otherwise a card or simple acknowledgment is fine.
 
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