Marcus
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Not embarrassed that I like polyamory but there's quite a few men there that I'd rather not peak their interests.
You may certainly get some of that kind of interest too, the more you make your feelings known to people. When some people hear things like "non-monogamy" or "polyamory" they mainly just hear "I'll hook up with literally anyone, at literally any time".
The reason is because some folks who cheat on their partners explain it using those terms "I can't help it baby, I'm polyamorous". Or just monogamous people who are currently in a period of promiscuity use those terms.
This isn't meant to warn you off, just that if you are going to describe yourself as "polyamorous" or "non-monogamous" to the uninitiated you might want to work on an elevator pitch explaining what you mean when you say it. Having a confident and concise description of what you are into can help you avoid some of the misunderstandings.
In the rare instances where I am talking to someone at work about my relationship practices I try to keep it simple with something like "I'm not monogamous, I don't follow that particular tradition". Most of the time people don't hassle me further, but I recognize that women can have a different set of struggles in that sort of scenario.