so heres my dilemma. my wife and I are a married couple and just recently became a triad. weve been married for nearly 5 years but together for a total of 7. recently there has been loss of connection between me and my wife and we had a falling out this past weekend when i tried to date someone. we had an agreement to keep things casual and friendly, yes i hugged the girl i planned on dating but it was cold out and so we kinda snuggled a bit. my wifes bf was virtually doing the same thing but to my wife and so i figured it wouldnt have been an issue. she left in a huff and made a small scene saying i knew what i did wrong and was treating me like a dog. telling me i couldnt say good bye to her(the girl we met) and told me to stay in the car like a damn dog. so there was an argument she says that I have never been that physically affectionate to her and so she was pissed at me for doing that to a random stranger than to her. one of our agreements was she could not have unprotected sex with her bf. we all agreed in her anger she said she had unprotected sex with him to spite me. me knowing she has had trouble conceiving and carrying a pregnancy in the past made the comment of go ahead you'll probably just miss carry anyway. in the end i apologized for what i said because yes i realised it was the worse possible thing i could say to hurt her and i don't know what came over me. in either case she did not in fact have unprotected sex with her bf she as meerly trying to get a point across that hit a nerve which i yet again i do understand except she knows how i would react to that.
so now she wants to downgrade my relationship with her and i'm no longer the primary partner for her. i get along with the other guy quiet well even though we vary a lot in personality and have no personal beef with eachother. however my wife will not see me unless he is present which i feel is detrimental to our marriage. i am really trying to reconnect with her and i don't know what to do and my work takes me away from the family mon-fri and sometimes at months at end. i need some advice and she wont budge on the seeing me one on one just so we can save our marriage. i am starting to feel as if i no longer have a place in her life and if thats the case do we divorce? i am willing to fix our marriage but she doesnt seem to be all she does lately is make snide remarks and finds any reason to just taunt that im no longer her primary partner.
so now she wants to downgrade my relationship with her and i'm no longer the primary partner for her. i get along with the other guy quiet well even though we vary a lot in personality and have no personal beef with eachother. however my wife will not see me unless he is present which i feel is detrimental to our marriage. i am really trying to reconnect with her and i don't know what to do and my work takes me away from the family mon-fri and sometimes at months at end. i need some advice and she wont budge on the seeing me one on one just so we can save our marriage. i am starting to feel as if i no longer have a place in her life and if thats the case do we divorce? i am willing to fix our marriage but she doesnt seem to be all she does lately is make snide remarks and finds any reason to just taunt that im no longer her primary partner.