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OK, so you are the self-appointed monogamous devil's advocate voice on the Polyamory.com forum? I am not sure we need one. Those attitudes are everywhere, and are outmoded and patriarchal. If feminists want to change society's attitudes, we know full well what we are up against without your voice reminding us in a tiresome fashion.
But, it's a free country, dear, so "you go girl."
No I don't claim to be a monogamy advocate. I just think its useful to remind her that in her current relationship configuration she is able to practice poly with women and her husband is not seeing anyone else. By all accounts it appears stable and has required very little emotional hardship from him or her. Many people LOVE stability in a marriage and lack of drama. I think we all know that this will change should she force the issue and demand that her partner begin the process of growing comfortable of her being with other men. Not to mention if he starts dating (which appears to be held out as a carrot on a stick) there is no telling what her feelings on the matter will be until it actually starts happening. So we go from a stable configuration of everyone happy with a minor annoyance on her part that men are off limits, to a potentially unstable configuration where both of them are having a hard time of it due to their expanding poly universe and things ending up in divorce court. Or maybe not, maybe everything will be fine. I just want her to really consider her next move and the repercussions before she does it so that shes not blind sided. Is that so terrible to put on the poly forum?