My partner of 17 years and I are in an open marriage.
My partner met this guy online a few years ago, who decided to come visit us from Czech Republic. It was his first trip to the US.
He stayed with us last week. I was not expecting him to be so attractive. I mean he's a 10, arguably the most attractive man I've ever seen irl. Lol.
Well, after about his fourth night with us, I started getting flirty vibes from him. We got to the point where we were sitting pretty close with each other, but we stayed within our boundaries because 1) he's a married man, and 2) he's my husband's online friend, and at this point, he didn't know my husband and I were open.
Also, even though my husband and I are open, I always felt friends should be off-limits. I was worried about upsetting my husband, only because this guy is his friend and I'd prefer to meet a lover who isn't connected to each other's friendships.
But we just got closer. The next thing I know, I was giving this guy a somewhat erotic massage. Still, we were keeping our boundaries, because neither of us were sure what was acceptable.
The next day, my husband and I casually brought up (to him) that we were in an open marriage, so he wouldn't feel weird about flirting with me. He was highly fascinated by this. Later that night, he cornered me in a flirtatious way. He rerouted the conversation back to our open marriage. He told me that he thought that it was healthy and something he could do.
Ten minutes later, I took him to my massage room and gave him an even more erotic massage. But eventually, he told me to stop, for moral reasons. Nothing really happened, but we both were incredibly aroused.
I/we really wanted to go further, but he is married and that wouldn't be right, plus I wouldn't want him to lose his online friendship with my husband, in case it got weird.
This was his last night with us. After the massage, I thought I needed to back off, so I made something to eat and went to bed. He was acting like he wanted me to lie with him (he was lying down in my room), but I didn't think I should keep tugging at him cause I kept getting yes/no/yes/no vibes. This was quite understandable, because we both felt morally conflicted. But at the same time, we didn't want to make each other feel weird. Lol.
He eventually gave me a long hug and we parted to separate bedrooms.
The next day, my husband gave our friend a ride back to the airport to fly back home.
During their drive to the airport, our friend started to ask my husband more info about our open marriage and this conversation seemed to make a lot more sense to him. He just wanted to hear it more from my husband's pov.
Also, this guy "told on himself" (or told on us). My husband respected his honesty, and basically told him he wouldn't have cared if we had hooked up.
I wasn't sure if I'd ever talk to this guy again, but an hour later, he sent me a dm to let me know he got to his gate okay. Then all night, with his in-flight WIFI, we chatted and flirted with each other, during his entire flight over the Atlantic.
It seemed like the only reason he wanted to stop was because he didn't want to make it weird with my husband and needed to hear his side of it more. Now he seems more open to flirting, but he is married and they're not exactly open like we are... However, he says it's because these topics don't get discussed openly, but I guess CR is a top country where couples are open to extramarital relationships without jealousy. It just doesn't get discussed as open marriage. But he says it's something he COULD do.
The reason why I'm saying all this, is because I am absolutely smitten by him. We keep flirting, sharing pics of our day, and texting each other good morning and good night (with a 6-hour time difference).
I am fantasizing hard about taking a flight (maybe in 8-12 months) for a weekend to Prague and getting an AirBnB, to see if he would spend the weekend with me and see what happened. Even if nothing happened, I also like him and enjoyed his company, so I would enjoy just going and spending one-on-one time with him in his country, but I'd want it to be just him and me.
This would be my dream fantasy. Lol. I'm not going to bring it up now, but if we keep talking, should I throw the idea out there, that I want to come hang out for a weekend?
Also, the original plan was for my husband and me to go to Prague. AITA if I ask my husband if I could go without him, just for a weekend. If things go well, my husband and I could come back together another time.
I feel very conflicted, but have a strong desire for and connection to him. I've never felt like this before. I've never been with someone so attractive either. Lol. We don't get men like this where i live. I don't want to push him away or be a bad influence.
I'm obviously going to go with the flow and see what happens. This is what my husband told me to do, as I'm overthinking it. Haha. But if I could just spend a romantic weekend in Prague with him, it could possibly be the greatest weekend of my life. lol. Would you ask in this scenario? How long would you wait to ask this person if they'd want to see you if you came to them, knowing their situation? I don't want to creep him out. I mean, he took a chance coming to the US to visit my husband, and likes to visit random people he meets online (all over the world), so to him, this wouldn't seem all that crazy.
My partner met this guy online a few years ago, who decided to come visit us from Czech Republic. It was his first trip to the US.
He stayed with us last week. I was not expecting him to be so attractive. I mean he's a 10, arguably the most attractive man I've ever seen irl. Lol.
Well, after about his fourth night with us, I started getting flirty vibes from him. We got to the point where we were sitting pretty close with each other, but we stayed within our boundaries because 1) he's a married man, and 2) he's my husband's online friend, and at this point, he didn't know my husband and I were open.
Also, even though my husband and I are open, I always felt friends should be off-limits. I was worried about upsetting my husband, only because this guy is his friend and I'd prefer to meet a lover who isn't connected to each other's friendships.
But we just got closer. The next thing I know, I was giving this guy a somewhat erotic massage. Still, we were keeping our boundaries, because neither of us were sure what was acceptable.
The next day, my husband and I casually brought up (to him) that we were in an open marriage, so he wouldn't feel weird about flirting with me. He was highly fascinated by this. Later that night, he cornered me in a flirtatious way. He rerouted the conversation back to our open marriage. He told me that he thought that it was healthy and something he could do.
Ten minutes later, I took him to my massage room and gave him an even more erotic massage. But eventually, he told me to stop, for moral reasons. Nothing really happened, but we both were incredibly aroused.
I/we really wanted to go further, but he is married and that wouldn't be right, plus I wouldn't want him to lose his online friendship with my husband, in case it got weird.
This was his last night with us. After the massage, I thought I needed to back off, so I made something to eat and went to bed. He was acting like he wanted me to lie with him (he was lying down in my room), but I didn't think I should keep tugging at him cause I kept getting yes/no/yes/no vibes. This was quite understandable, because we both felt morally conflicted. But at the same time, we didn't want to make each other feel weird. Lol.
He eventually gave me a long hug and we parted to separate bedrooms.
The next day, my husband gave our friend a ride back to the airport to fly back home.
During their drive to the airport, our friend started to ask my husband more info about our open marriage and this conversation seemed to make a lot more sense to him. He just wanted to hear it more from my husband's pov.
Also, this guy "told on himself" (or told on us). My husband respected his honesty, and basically told him he wouldn't have cared if we had hooked up.
I wasn't sure if I'd ever talk to this guy again, but an hour later, he sent me a dm to let me know he got to his gate okay. Then all night, with his in-flight WIFI, we chatted and flirted with each other, during his entire flight over the Atlantic.
It seemed like the only reason he wanted to stop was because he didn't want to make it weird with my husband and needed to hear his side of it more. Now he seems more open to flirting, but he is married and they're not exactly open like we are... However, he says it's because these topics don't get discussed openly, but I guess CR is a top country where couples are open to extramarital relationships without jealousy. It just doesn't get discussed as open marriage. But he says it's something he COULD do.
The reason why I'm saying all this, is because I am absolutely smitten by him. We keep flirting, sharing pics of our day, and texting each other good morning and good night (with a 6-hour time difference).
I am fantasizing hard about taking a flight (maybe in 8-12 months) for a weekend to Prague and getting an AirBnB, to see if he would spend the weekend with me and see what happened. Even if nothing happened, I also like him and enjoyed his company, so I would enjoy just going and spending one-on-one time with him in his country, but I'd want it to be just him and me.
This would be my dream fantasy. Lol. I'm not going to bring it up now, but if we keep talking, should I throw the idea out there, that I want to come hang out for a weekend?
Also, the original plan was for my husband and me to go to Prague. AITA if I ask my husband if I could go without him, just for a weekend. If things go well, my husband and I could come back together another time.
I feel very conflicted, but have a strong desire for and connection to him. I've never felt like this before. I've never been with someone so attractive either. Lol. We don't get men like this where i live. I don't want to push him away or be a bad influence.
I'm obviously going to go with the flow and see what happens. This is what my husband told me to do, as I'm overthinking it. Haha. But if I could just spend a romantic weekend in Prague with him, it could possibly be the greatest weekend of my life. lol. Would you ask in this scenario? How long would you wait to ask this person if they'd want to see you if you came to them, knowing their situation? I don't want to creep him out. I mean, he took a chance coming to the US to visit my husband, and likes to visit random people he meets online (all over the world), so to him, this wouldn't seem all that crazy.
