"I'm not leaving you, I'm leaving poly."

[kdt26417]

As far as priorities are concerned, I know some people (as I am one such person) have a partner who will try to choose which partner to help based on the gravity of the need. A choice must be made, but it doesn't always have to be made based on "who's the most primary." (For the record ...)

 

[sparklepop]

Hi Annabel,

I'm really pleased to hear that you and Pike have had a discussion to explore some options! I think that's really great news.

I'm also pleased that you've reflected and considered the possibility of being able to offer something more. All things change and we change with them, as they say.

I wish you all the very best, whatever you both decide.

~ Sparklepop

 

[NovemberRain]

Annabel, I'm so grateful that you've shared your experience, in your journal, and in this thread.

It's good to be reminded that other people can be friends with people they've stopped having as lovers. Deep, loving friends.

My meatspace people have a hard time understanding why my boyfriend and ex-boyfriend are spending the holidays with me. And that we are the only people we all want to spend holidays with.


I had a lovely bf, once upon a time. I knew we were not 'forever' material. But I was having so much fun. I was definitely not ready.[not ready to let him go 'yet'] Truthfully, knowing him through his next relationship, I think it was a test - I think I was supposed to convince him to stay. He didn't say 'I want to break up.' He said, while we were snuggled in bed together (in my twin bed!), 'I don't think I can do this anymore,' with a big heavy sigh. I got up put my robe on, and said meet me in the living room to discuss the ending. I was damned if I was going to lie in my bed like a victim and watch one more person walk out of my life. I was so proud of that day. But his next gf did a bunch of break-up-back-together. Interesting.