greetings everyone.
I finally have something to ask for my own poly journey.
I've shared with some of you, I'm in a Christian marriage, wife is very much against poly, but she is changing slightly. even a little change in the right direction is good in my thinking. she is cool with me spending time with some of her friends without her, it's sort of a compromise to my poly interest. if she gave the green light, they are still not women I would actually be interested being poly with, but they are nice friends.
this afternoon one of these female friends came over, we talked, gave each other a back rub, and my wife is ok with that. my wife was sitting in the living room present for some of it. after that we all sat on the couch with my wife. she surprised me with the comment...she said her friend had a birthday last week and considering I say I'm poly, that I should take both of them out for dinner as my "girlfriends" then when we get back from dinner, I should give her friend another back rub.
this is unusual commentary from my wife.
after returning, I gave the other woman a back rub, I gave my wife one for the same amount of time to be fair, she was fine with this.
side note...a few weeks ago, I had a 3 some-Ish with both, lol one was rubbing my feet and my wife was working on my shoulders, definitely first time I've had that experience in my 8-year marriage. all things considered that encounter was a win.
at bedtime tonight my wife says, it's interesting that I pay more attention to her after I've been spending time with these other female friends.
I have noticed this too in the past. people here have talked about this same thing occasionally, is there a name for this and how common is it in the poly community to be closer to a primary after time with a secondary?
thank you.
I finally have something to ask for my own poly journey.
I've shared with some of you, I'm in a Christian marriage, wife is very much against poly, but she is changing slightly. even a little change in the right direction is good in my thinking. she is cool with me spending time with some of her friends without her, it's sort of a compromise to my poly interest. if she gave the green light, they are still not women I would actually be interested being poly with, but they are nice friends.
this afternoon one of these female friends came over, we talked, gave each other a back rub, and my wife is ok with that. my wife was sitting in the living room present for some of it. after that we all sat on the couch with my wife. she surprised me with the comment...she said her friend had a birthday last week and considering I say I'm poly, that I should take both of them out for dinner as my "girlfriends" then when we get back from dinner, I should give her friend another back rub.
this is unusual commentary from my wife.
after returning, I gave the other woman a back rub, I gave my wife one for the same amount of time to be fair, she was fine with this.
side note...a few weeks ago, I had a 3 some-Ish with both, lol one was rubbing my feet and my wife was working on my shoulders, definitely first time I've had that experience in my 8-year marriage. all things considered that encounter was a win.
at bedtime tonight my wife says, it's interesting that I pay more attention to her after I've been spending time with these other female friends.
I have noticed this too in the past. people here have talked about this same thing occasionally, is there a name for this and how common is it in the poly community to be closer to a primary after time with a secondary?
thank you.
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