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MB here.
I just turned 53 and have been married for 23 years.
I had an extramarital encounter a year and a half ago that has changed the way I feel about monogamy. It was exciting and really ignited something inside me that lay dormant for so long. My husband suffers from PTSD and so our relationship was kind of non existent for over 10 years during which time I fell out of love with him but stayed to raise our kids. Now an empty nester, I don’t see myself living a monogamous relationship until I die. So, after being found out the first time I decided to broach the subject of polyamory with him. An idea I was recently given by a co worker. My husband is not sold on the idea, but he’s even less sold on divorce. So right now we are in a don’t ask don’t tell stage.
Greetings MB,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sounds like you have had your fair share of difficulties in trying to transition from mono to poly. The conversation you had with your husband didn't go great, although at least you found out the divorce was his least-desired outcome. I take it the don't-ask-don't-tell is so you don't have to have another uncomfortable conversation. Especially when in the talk you had with him, you didn't get anywhere.

You have a rough road ahead of you, I hope can be a source of comfort and support. If you have any questions for us, please don't hesitate to ask.

Kevin T., "official greeter"


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