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[kulhrae]

Hi, I’m Rae

Married, mama to awesome kids, and genuinely loving life. Our communication is strong, our vibe is solid, and yes, our sex life is amazing. We’ve talked for years about possibly inviting a third into the mix, and now we’re curious about how to do it right.
We’re not looking for a relationship, just good energy, mutual attraction, and fun. DTF, respectful, and very aware that chemistry and consent are everything. Mostly here looking for advice, insight, and the best avenues to explore this thoughtfully (and enjoyably ).

Friendly, open-minded, and excited to learn! If you’ve been here before, I’d love to hear how you navigated it!

 

[Magdlyn]

Hi and welcome!

You say you're not "looking for a relationship," yet you've just posted on a board about polyamorous relationships. So it seems you're looking for fun and sex only? No romance?

Polyamory means multiple loves. I moved this to Relationships since you seem to be seeking advice about non-monogamous dating.

Here is some advice about "adding a third."

https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/

The Most Skipped Step When Opening a Relationship

You’ve had hundreds of hours of discussions on what your open relationship will look like? Check!

medium.com

Triad or V - What's More Complicated?

I get a lot of people new to polyamory insisting that they must date together, or meet people together, because it "will be less complicated." I see this in comments on social media, on dating app profiles, on couple's profiles on social media (that black and red one that starts with an F...

www.readyforpolyamory.com

So, someone called you a Unicorn Hunter?

This article is a long, technical discussion of what being a "Unicorn Hunter" means, what's wrong with it, and how people in such a situation can try to avoid the negative stereotypes associated with such behavior and get the things that they are ultimately looking for. It is written in a…

davidlnoble.livejournal.com

Here is a book that explains the differences between kinds of dating style under the ENM umbrella: Opening Up.

I hope these help.

 

[kdt26417]

Hello Rae,

Opening Up is a great place to start, the author is Tristan Taormino. Everyone is different, and every relationship is unique, so I encourage you to keep posting on this thread as your situation evolves, we can give advice that fits you. You already have the right idea, mutual consent is the most important thing, followed closely by lots of communication. You are thinking of inviting a third into your marriage, so be aware that that third will be a unique individual too, with his/her own wants and needs. This is one of the things I can't advise on yet, as you don't yet know who this person is. But do be prepared to include his/her wants/needs in your plans. S/he may have kids, and/or an existing partner, just as a couple of examples.

Good luck and good love,
Kevin T.