Ugh on the squirting trend. Yeah, I don't squirt, either, at least not in the sense of gush a half gallon of clear fluid. There is a release of wetness, but 1) it's about a teaspoon and 2) it's like regular vaginal fluid, the natural lube my body makes, not watery clear stuff.
With all the messages women get about how we're doing it wrong, it's a miracle any of us manage to enjoy sex. Find your g spot! No wait vaginal orgasms don't exist! Everyone can squirt! No wait it's just pee! I mean really. Lady parts are complicated and we don't all work the same way. Whether it's physical differences or learned likes/dislikes.
On the bodily fluids topic...
I don't have any feelings either way about my own. I mean, it helps with sex, so good I guess? But I am completely squicked out by the idea of other women's, in this second grader ewwww gross way.
On the other hand, I think I'm what the Fet crowd would call a cum slut. I love it. The smell, taste, feel, everything. The other day K passed along a tip from her sister that pineapple gets the taste of cum out of your mouth after a blow job. I was like - why???? Savor that shit. Anyway. My best sex ever is when a guy comes inside me and then fingers me or fucks me again... I love feeling it inside me and spilling out of me. That is the stuff multiple orgasms are made of.
Yeah, me and condoms, not destined to be BFFs.
Fuck it, I like talking about sex.
(See THIS conversation is why I want more girlfriends in my life. Just hanging out drinking tea and talking about orgasms.)
Like too many words having to do with women's parts and functions, I just don't like the word "squirt" itself. Phonetically, the sound of it, I don't like it.
I don't have a lot of volume either, but it's thinner, watery. I know it isn't urine. Know for FACT, because it's been recommended to me, to go urinate as soon as possible after we do that kind of stimulation, that it can prevent UTIs or something, and I've noticed it does tend to prevent some possible discomfort maybe... Anyhow recently, I was in a position to detect the taste and scent of what had happened there, and minutes later I was doing the recommended peeing and I was dehydrated, and trust me if what had happened in the bed had been what was in my bladder at that time, there would have been NO doubt what it was. It was more like water, not much scent or anything to it. Definitely different.
My informal anatomy lesson says it's something called the "Skene's gland." Another phonetically lovely name for a part of my body, thanks to whatever MAN "discovered" it? I imagine? Thanks guys...for that...sounds like something that a small woodland creature uses to spray stink at attackers...
/facepalm
I had, though, only had that kind of orgasm twice in my life before Zen, and he's made it happen a few times. It's not an often thing for me, even though he's really good. And no man would make me have one I think, if I didn't allow it to happen, I have to really concentrate on relaxing and the sensations and stuff.
I don't think it's superior or inferior, but I think that Zen, like some guys, just wants to feel like he can figure out every little thing he can find and what he can do with it to get what results, he loves to play with my body. He also wants to know all the spots that tickle. He likes to get me with them, too. And you know it's weird, I used to hate being tickled with such a virulent passion that I'd turn into a shrieking, flailing lunatic...but not with him. I laugh and buck and twitch and all, but when I'm very aroused it seems that tickling isn't as bad. Also, sometimes he laughs at my reactions, and the sound of HIM laughing is pretty much one of the most wonderful things in my world.
So the point of all that ramble, is that I have found that plenty of things I would have said, "Oh, it's like this for me" are now completely different with Zen, even though I had plenty of opportunities to discover this stuff before him and before now....I didn't. I'm a little amazed at how much there still is for me to learn about what my body is capable of, with the right lover.
Oh, and while I'm bi so I like girl fluids, I am sometimes right there with ya on the men's, only I've found some taste good and some not so much. I've been told there might be a dietary component, and that wouldn't surprise me. The best I can recall ate lots and lots of home grown organic veggies. The worst was probably a junk food and steak kind of guy. I feel like the majority are good, a few are bad, and a few are amazing, in that regard.
