Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

11:31 a.m., Sunday the 8th

So the photographer canceled on us, supposedly because it was foggy this morning. I'm very disappointed and, frankly, mad. We went to a lot of trouble to prepare for this. So by now, the fog has cleared up, and the clouds are breaking up as well. SB texted the guy that maybe we could still do this a bit later this afternoon, but he is not texting her back. :mad:

The Force is not with me today.
 
1:16 p.m., Monday the 9th

Instead of letting us come out later the same day, the guy rescheduled for the last Friday of this month (apparently he has not set a time yet). I'm going to have a hard time smiling for the camera. :mad: Course I'm not what you'd call a "get my picture taken" type of a person in the first place. I just prefer to be a part of it if BH and SB are having it done. What I'm trying to say is, it's not my circus, I'm just along for the ride. If it was my circus, I think I'd ditch this particular photographer and look for someone else.

SB is off today, I'm not sure if it's a certain holiday or what. There's not much going on at the moment. Later today, Eddie has two classes at Argus, back to back. Hopefully we'll get coffee on the way there.
 
7:18 p.m., Tuesday the 10th

We got home from the classes at, like, 10:30 p.m., and got to bed at about an hour later. Which is *really* late for us. SB of course still had to get up early for work today, and she had a bad day at work which means she was late getting out. :( For dinner today we'll just have leftovers.
 
3:45 p.m., Thursday the 12th

SB made soup for us for dinner last night. We ate at a little after 7:00 p.m., and didn't watch anything. (We'd have to eat at more like 5:30 p.m., to watch anything on a work night.)

I'm having a hard time sticking to my diet, but I'm doing my best.
 
12:12 p.m., Friday the 13th

SB took today off, as she had tooth surgery (implants removed), and can recover over the weekend. BH already has Fridays off, so he drove her to and from the appointment. We won't be going anywhere (partly due to COVID-19's shutdown of society), but we might watch a movie or three on TV.
 
10:07 a.m., Saturday the 14th

It's taking a long time for things to warm up out there. It's actually snowing right now. :(

Eddie has a Barn Hunt practice later today (at 3:00 p.m.). BH and SB are going, and it sounds like I'll be staying home. :(

Last night, we had baked beans and hot dogs for dinner. About a half an hour after dinner, we watched the second episode in the Dark Crystal. I did a little persuading to make that happen.
 
4:45 p.m., Monday the 16th

So as it turns out, Snowbunny was okay with me coming along for the Barn Hunt trip (and as far as I know, Brother-Husband was okay with that too). However, we did not get to eat out for dinner, nor even stop for coffee. Damn you SARS-CoV-2. Damn you to Hell.

Then, yesterday, we watched Episode Three of the Dark Crystal. The series is starting to grow on me. And I think BH likes it, but SB is not so impressed. "It's too slow," she says. I don't know if that's her only complaint, or even her main complaint, or if it's because it's my idea, or if she just doesn't like it. She's not a dishonest person, but she is very in-charge, if that makes sense.

A while after that, we watched S1E4 of Carnival Row. Also getting increasingly interesting.

Today, the cleaning lady came over (at around 10:10 a.m.). SB had a dental appointment, and left for that at around 11:20 a.m. (and got back at around 1:20 p.m.). We don't get many good opportunities to have sex, so we did that today (while BH was at work).

Eddie had his two back-to-back classes today, but they were both canceled. This virus is really wreaking havoc on our First World lives.
 
Regarding the Dark Crystal, ya can't please all of the people all of the time. I'm glad you're liking it. The Gelflings are so cute, come on! :) :eek: :)
 
1:44 p.m., Tuesday the 17th

It's also remarkable how they make each face unique, even while it matches the individual's species and clan.
 
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It's also remarkable how they make each face unique, even while it matches the individual's species and clan.
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Oh, yes, the Henson team are super talented. The sculpts have improved so much since the original movie, tech-wise! Well, except for the Skeksis. Those hideous beings are about the same, hmmmmmmmm?
 
12:07 p.m., Wednesday the 18th

The Skeksis are delightfully detestable. :)
 
1:38 p.m., Thursday the 19th

So, the credit union where Snowbunny works has now said that she will be working from home until further notice. We're thus both in the same house, but I am trying not to disturb her during her working hours. Yesterday she took Eddie on a walk and I went with, and it sounds like we might be doing that again today. I guess you could say it's our replacement for going out to eat or what have you. :( I do at least need opportunities to get out of the house.
 
1:48 p.m., Friday the 20th

We did go on another walk yesterday; not sure whether we will today. Eddie had a grooming appointment today; SB has gone to pick him up. BH is off today (as per usual for him on Friday).

I'm somewhat surprised; I figured that with all the isolating that's been going on, forum activity levels would have increased. Not so, and Facebook doesn't seem to be much busier either.

I did get an email from my mom asking how the three of us were doing during this crisis so far. I wrote back and was more long-winded than I anticipated. Perhaps she'll write me again and we'll have a little conversation going.
 
1:33 p.m., Saturday the 21st

We did not go on a walk yesterday. However, there is talk of us going on one today. My mom wrote me back, just a short email, and I responded in kind. Last night, BH and I watched a movie, "Robot & Frank." And we might watch something tonight, we'll see.
 
12:12 p.m., Sunday the 22nd

We did go on a walk yesterday, but not until after dinner, and so, we did not watch anything. BH works tomorrow so we probably won't watch anything tonight either, but we'll see.

Forum activity levels have dropped even further, and I'm trying to guess at the reason. Because people now have kids at home? because social media are supposed to be bad for us? because some people have lost their internet access? because forum usage was going to drop off anyway? a combination of things?

I can't tell, but Facebook activity levels may be on the increase. At least among the people on my Facebook friends list. Why Facebook and not the forum, I couldn't tell you.
 
1:37 p.m., Monday the 23rd

There's certainly a lot of talk (on my Facebook) about how Trump (and the Senate) is handling the (SARS-CoV-2) crisis; but then, there's always lots of talk about Trump's latest high jinks. I spent a lot of time on Facebook yesterday, and did not get through all of the posts, so I would definitely say Facebook activity levels have picked up. Which is good, for me, helps with all this isolation.
 
3:54 p.m., Tuesday the 24th

Soooo frustrated/depressed. Spent hours today searching for the origin (on this forum) of the "joyous consent/fuck yes or no" concept ... all to no avail. I found a 2014 post with the right title, but there is evidence that the concept had been around for at least a year by then. I am picturing a thread that started with an article reference, followed by people swooning over how great the article was, including posts from myself and from GalaGirl, possibly from Magdlyn and certainly from others. My memory says that yes such a thread exists, but my search results say no, it doesn't exist. Does anyone else remember such a thread, or am I losing my mind?

My official opinion about "joyous consent/fuck yes or no" is that the concept is way overused. It has some usefulness as a tiebreaker for when one is not sure whether one consents, but it does not belong in the definition of polyamory. See Wiktionary, Wikipedia, Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, the Oxford Dictionary, and all the definitions in the definitions of polyamory thread. In none of those places will you find the words "joyous" or "joyful consent." Just consent. (Knowledge and consent.)

If joyous consent is the only kind of consent that counts as true consent, then my poly-fi V is not poly at all, because Brother-Husband never said, "Fuck yeah," he only said, "Okay." And Snowbunny thinks it likely that he was even under some pressure to say okay, like she implied to him that his acceptance of the poly proposition was going to be a requirement for the continuance of his marriage with her. So, is my poly-fi V valid? You decide.
 
I still maintain that you can be fuck yes to a relationship, with all of its parameters, without being fuck yes to any specific one. So yes, you and your relationships are valid.
 
11:34 a.m., Wednesday the 25th

You seem to be saying that Brother-Husband was fuck yes to the V relationship as a whole, as opposed to just the part that included me? I may not be understanding you correctly.
 
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