FallenAngelina
Well-known member
Hi Everyone, I'm Karen and very happy to have found you all.
This past winter I experienced a cosmic intervention in the form of a man who barnstormed into my heart and whose gentle, persistence presence caused me to question 15 years of monogamy with my husband. I knew immediately that "one or the other" was not the road I wanted and as time went on, I reflected more and more on the many ways in which I had been reaching for a poly life all along. My teenage years were filled with undefined, open relationships, which we just chalked up to being young, I suppose. As the years went on, my peers coupled up exclusively and at 38, I finally decided to go the monogamous marriage route myself because that was the only way I could see to having a family, which I very much wanted. But before marriage I gravitated toward people who were involved with others, always with more of an "all for one" attitude than a "me vs. her" attitude. My lack of role models, lack of confidence and emotional immaturity precluded my ability to forge a poly life for myself, however, so I dove into monogamy which seemed the one and only path forward at the time.
So, now I'm 53 and experiencing one of the most surprising episodes of my life (so far!) and that is coming to know that a happily open marriage is truly possible. I couldn't be happier if I'd won the lottery. My husband is not interested in dating (although I gave him the go-ahead when we got married) but he has full knowledge that I do and has given me his "blessing" to fully be who I know myself to be. I appreciate him in ways that are ever expanding and I am grateful for a life that I had only ever previously dared to wish for on a distant star.
Right now I am dating and just enjoying being out there. It's great coming back into the water with the gifts of maturity, confidence and experience. The warm recepetion has been moving, rejeuvenating and downright shocking at times in its volume. I think when you're ready for something and really open up to it, the world rises to meet you and all sorts of pathways and people come forward to see you on your way.
I'm so glad to have found this forum. I've been reading a few of the threads and feel encouraged by the many heartfelt and thoroughly sincere posts. I'm very happy to be in your company and in this community. Thanks for having me.
~ Karen
This past winter I experienced a cosmic intervention in the form of a man who barnstormed into my heart and whose gentle, persistence presence caused me to question 15 years of monogamy with my husband. I knew immediately that "one or the other" was not the road I wanted and as time went on, I reflected more and more on the many ways in which I had been reaching for a poly life all along. My teenage years were filled with undefined, open relationships, which we just chalked up to being young, I suppose. As the years went on, my peers coupled up exclusively and at 38, I finally decided to go the monogamous marriage route myself because that was the only way I could see to having a family, which I very much wanted. But before marriage I gravitated toward people who were involved with others, always with more of an "all for one" attitude than a "me vs. her" attitude. My lack of role models, lack of confidence and emotional immaturity precluded my ability to forge a poly life for myself, however, so I dove into monogamy which seemed the one and only path forward at the time.
So, now I'm 53 and experiencing one of the most surprising episodes of my life (so far!) and that is coming to know that a happily open marriage is truly possible. I couldn't be happier if I'd won the lottery. My husband is not interested in dating (although I gave him the go-ahead when we got married) but he has full knowledge that I do and has given me his "blessing" to fully be who I know myself to be. I appreciate him in ways that are ever expanding and I am grateful for a life that I had only ever previously dared to wish for on a distant star.
Right now I am dating and just enjoying being out there. It's great coming back into the water with the gifts of maturity, confidence and experience. The warm recepetion has been moving, rejeuvenating and downright shocking at times in its volume. I think when you're ready for something and really open up to it, the world rises to meet you and all sorts of pathways and people come forward to see you on your way.
I'm so glad to have found this forum. I've been reading a few of the threads and feel encouraged by the many heartfelt and thoroughly sincere posts. I'm very happy to be in your company and in this community. Thanks for having me.
~ Karen
