Hello all. I need some unusual advice for a situation that most “normal” people don’t seem capable of comprehending. I’m new to all this so please bare with me as I try to explain, in great detail...
I’ve been married to my wonderful wife for 10 years. Since early in our relationship, even before we were married, I knew she had alternative sexual tendencies. Specifically, she likes girls. This is fine with me. In fact, it’s more than fine, I love it. She has had very few same sex encounters since we’ve been together. I love how she shimmers and glows with an utterly beautiful bubbly energy for a short time after those rare moments. However, she often gets close but then pulls back just before engaging with someone in whom she’s interested. When I question her about her feelings, she denies having them at all. In fact, she’s all but blocked out the two I was present for and know she had. I worry there’s some psychological block preventing her from admitting her true sexuality. I’ve tried to remain patient, but I worry this may fester into something toxic further down the road. I believe I’ve made my feelings clear on the matter, and even told her “I don’t have to know about it, just enjoy exploring who you are”. To be clear: I’m not expecting or searching for a threesome with her and a girlfriend. Yes, it would be lovely, I am a hetero-normative male after all... but I just want my wife to be happy and fulfilled. So I don’t believe I am the reason she holds back.
We are both spiritual but not religious. However, we both grew up in similar religious households whose views are a bit ridged when is comes to sexuality and expected roles of marriage. We live in a rural area of America that is part of the Bible Belt. It is my belief that these factors are at the source of her trepidation.
If there is anyone with a similar situation who may offer some advice on how I may encourage her to go forth in her personal sexual fulfillment, it would be greatly appreciated.
I’ve been married to my wonderful wife for 10 years. Since early in our relationship, even before we were married, I knew she had alternative sexual tendencies. Specifically, she likes girls. This is fine with me. In fact, it’s more than fine, I love it. She has had very few same sex encounters since we’ve been together. I love how she shimmers and glows with an utterly beautiful bubbly energy for a short time after those rare moments. However, she often gets close but then pulls back just before engaging with someone in whom she’s interested. When I question her about her feelings, she denies having them at all. In fact, she’s all but blocked out the two I was present for and know she had. I worry there’s some psychological block preventing her from admitting her true sexuality. I’ve tried to remain patient, but I worry this may fester into something toxic further down the road. I believe I’ve made my feelings clear on the matter, and even told her “I don’t have to know about it, just enjoy exploring who you are”. To be clear: I’m not expecting or searching for a threesome with her and a girlfriend. Yes, it would be lovely, I am a hetero-normative male after all... but I just want my wife to be happy and fulfilled. So I don’t believe I am the reason she holds back.
We are both spiritual but not religious. However, we both grew up in similar religious households whose views are a bit ridged when is comes to sexuality and expected roles of marriage. We live in a rural area of America that is part of the Bible Belt. It is my belief that these factors are at the source of her trepidation.
If there is anyone with a similar situation who may offer some advice on how I may encourage her to go forth in her personal sexual fulfillment, it would be greatly appreciated.