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[FtMcryptid]

I'm new to this, so please be kind. Lol
I am a happily married FtM (born female/transitioning to male). Just turned 50 in January, but don't look or act a day of it.
I pass 100% as male after years of hormone treatment, no surgeries yet.

I would consider myself alternative in style, tattooed & pierced, lover of horror films, art, music, writing, hiking & nature.
I spent 20+ years in the film & music industries, taking a break for a while.

New to poly life, but not open relationships. Hubby and I date independently.

 

[Openbook23]

Welcome! Am I correct in thinking that when you say you are new to poly but not the open relationships, you mean that you are expanding your openess to include emotional connections with others? If so, I commend you. For a long while (ok, five years, which isn't a long while compared to many around here!), my wife and I have had an open relationship. We didn't really label what that meant in terms of swinging, poly, etc. Events in the last 6 months or so have confirmed that we are both poly. That was never forbidden or anything. We just didn't talk about it. However, we both knew that neither of us really likes having sex with someone unless there is more than JUST a physical connection. This means feelings will be possible.

There is a master thread of resources. I would look over it and take what you need from it. Doing your HW will help a lot. It can't completely remove complications, like feelings of jealousy, what to do in cases of conflict, etc. But it definitely helps to be prepared! I will say that you are going to read a lot of the complications/hard moments in poly if you peruse these boards. Keep in mind that those are the moments where people seek help. It's not always like that. The rewards are DEFINITELY worth the hard parts, and let's face it, there are hard parts in most relationships. Poly might speed them up or add more partners (and thus more potential for such moments). But it also adds more love, an abundance that rewards those who find it in immeasurable ways. Best of luck to you!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings FtMcryptid,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Thanks for sharing a little about yourself. It sounds like poly is a fairly new thing for you, even if you're already familiar with open relationships. That's exciting that you have been in the film and music industries, I was a piano teacher and organist for many years, but that was quite a while ago. Anyway, I hope you enjoy your stay on Polyamory.com, and if you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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