Shaya
New member
Using time wisely.
Hey Remnant,
You're just about the most famous guy on this forum right now. Hope you're taking care of essentials like sleep, food and the like. Reading polyamory.com may seem essential but I guarantee you that your life will be similar even if you never hear from us again.
Your time is precious. I'm glad you say you've found some aspects of this forum useful. The amount of time you've spent here is phenomenal and I hope it's been worth your time. I hope you and your wife are also getting enough time to work things out. One suggestion I have on time management would be to ignore us when you find us unhelpful. In the last day, I've seen you reply, quote and defend yourself seemingly constantly. That takes up tonnes of time. You came here for advice. Sure, read what we write, but I wouldn't waste time replying to attacks on your character or baseless accusations. That is wasted time. You owe your precious time to yourself and to your wife.
I posted about HALTT on post 77 of this thread. After reading pages of attacks and defending an explaining more about your situation, I still get the feeling that you're caught up in a war with this forum. In that sense, we're doing you a disservice. I feel your time would be better spent on empathy with your wife, reading up other resources (maybe the book "opening up" by Tristan taornimo on how to negotiate an open marriage), reading other stories written by those who have tried something similar to you from your wife's perspective (for empathy) or self awareness resources. I'm not sure what you would find most useful but I find myself wondering if the time you spend typing and arguing here could be better spent on more useful things.
Please always bear in mind that what you're doing is not polyamory.
Good luck Remnant. I'll check back tomorrow.
Hey Remnant,
You're just about the most famous guy on this forum right now. Hope you're taking care of essentials like sleep, food and the like. Reading polyamory.com may seem essential but I guarantee you that your life will be similar even if you never hear from us again.
Your time is precious. I'm glad you say you've found some aspects of this forum useful. The amount of time you've spent here is phenomenal and I hope it's been worth your time. I hope you and your wife are also getting enough time to work things out. One suggestion I have on time management would be to ignore us when you find us unhelpful. In the last day, I've seen you reply, quote and defend yourself seemingly constantly. That takes up tonnes of time. You came here for advice. Sure, read what we write, but I wouldn't waste time replying to attacks on your character or baseless accusations. That is wasted time. You owe your precious time to yourself and to your wife.
I posted about HALTT on post 77 of this thread. After reading pages of attacks and defending an explaining more about your situation, I still get the feeling that you're caught up in a war with this forum. In that sense, we're doing you a disservice. I feel your time would be better spent on empathy with your wife, reading up other resources (maybe the book "opening up" by Tristan taornimo on how to negotiate an open marriage), reading other stories written by those who have tried something similar to you from your wife's perspective (for empathy) or self awareness resources. I'm not sure what you would find most useful but I find myself wondering if the time you spend typing and arguing here could be better spent on more useful things.
Please always bear in mind that what you're doing is not polyamory.
Good luck Remnant. I'll check back tomorrow.