New2021PolyWoman
New member
Hey All,
I need some help in knowing if things are “okay” or “normal” even though I know I define that in my own relationship. Maybe I’m just seeking some advice from those who’ve already been around the block so to speak.
I fell in love with my girlfriend and we’ve been together for 6 months. I always knew she was poly and she knew I was monogamous (bi). Long story short, she still has love her for exes whom are married and wants to continue that relationship.
I’m excited to learn more about poly as I never knew about this lifestyle and it intrigues me because I felt like I suppressed things that now I know I never needed to. The only issue is that these women came before me and I just don’t know how I’ll feel to see my girlfriend kiss and interact with them like how she interacts with me. I’m also getting to know them myself and want to see if I like them too but I’m trying to keep it organic and now force myself to like them. What happens if I don’t like them and she wants to continue. Being a poly newbie and not exploring sucks and also dating separately sounds super scary to me. I know a lot of it is insecurity but I wish there was like a guidebook for this. I read More Than Two and Ethical Slut but I still shake during conversations. We opened the relationship but it’s just like I have to learn by circumstance. Any advice would be great!
My girlfriend is honest, I trust her by the way, but she’s also very reactive and not the best communicator when it counts. She’s a yeller and says things in the heat of the moment. My insecurity sometimes lies in emotional security but overall our love and bond is great and this is something that could work.
I need some help in knowing if things are “okay” or “normal” even though I know I define that in my own relationship. Maybe I’m just seeking some advice from those who’ve already been around the block so to speak.
I fell in love with my girlfriend and we’ve been together for 6 months. I always knew she was poly and she knew I was monogamous (bi). Long story short, she still has love her for exes whom are married and wants to continue that relationship.
I’m excited to learn more about poly as I never knew about this lifestyle and it intrigues me because I felt like I suppressed things that now I know I never needed to. The only issue is that these women came before me and I just don’t know how I’ll feel to see my girlfriend kiss and interact with them like how she interacts with me. I’m also getting to know them myself and want to see if I like them too but I’m trying to keep it organic and now force myself to like them. What happens if I don’t like them and she wants to continue. Being a poly newbie and not exploring sucks and also dating separately sounds super scary to me. I know a lot of it is insecurity but I wish there was like a guidebook for this. I read More Than Two and Ethical Slut but I still shake during conversations. We opened the relationship but it’s just like I have to learn by circumstance. Any advice would be great!
My girlfriend is honest, I trust her by the way, but she’s also very reactive and not the best communicator when it counts. She’s a yeller and says things in the heat of the moment. My insecurity sometimes lies in emotional security but overall our love and bond is great and this is something that could work.