My committed partner expressed fears about me being with another lover. I don't know if I should discontinue seeing my lover.

diestel said:
In a podcast, I heard that I, as hinge, need to make my own decisions and not be the playball between both points. I need to own those decisions. I need to learn what belongs to me, what belongs to Lover, what belongs to Nest, what belongs to me and Nest, what belongs to Lover and me, and what belongs to all of us.
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YES!!! I love the Multiamory podcast.
 
Hi people,

I decided to stop sharing Sex with Lover and would like to tell him this weekend. How should I tell him? Never did that before... So I have no clue on what to think of n would be happy about knowing about some pitfalls and about some advice.
 
Just make sure you take ownership of your decision and don't scapegoat your partner.
 
Speak plain.

"Lover, I no longer want to share sex with you."

I imagine Lover will have some feelings around that and ask questions but you don't have to answer any that you don't feel like answering. It's ok to stop/end things. You do not have to JADE -- justify, argue, defend, or explain your decisions.

It sounds like you want a simpler life, and it's fine to say that.

"Lover, I no longer want to share sex with you. I need to simplify my life."

Galagirl
 
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