My situation that I struggle with

Roose said:
Regardless, I will update after the talk for those of you that are actually interested in my outcome. And definitely again a few months after that, to let you know if we've achieved any semblance of success.
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Thank you and good luck :)
 
Best of luck to you, Roose.
 
This post deserves a full update, but at the moment, I'll just use GalaGirl's toggles.

This was her assessment based off my first post:

  • Married. Yes
  • Communicating open and honestly? no
  • Lovers. no
  • Dating partners. no
  • Open? no.
  • Free of cheating? no
  • Friends. No. (Cheating is not friendly or respectful.)


Here's how I feel now:

  • Married. Yes
  • Communicating open and honestly? Yes. We have had several multihour talking sessions about everything. The adultery, how we got to where we are, what we want from each other as sexual partners and married partners.
  • Lovers. Yes. As of Friday our sex life has enthusiastically resumed. I would daresay we've shared more orgasms than in all of 2015/2016 combined. Which shows how bad those two years were for us.
  • Dating partners. Yes. We've been setting aside time out of the house together. Even if just walking. Though to be fair, we were still dating with the dead bedroom
  • Open? Yes. I am ok with her having partners that I do not know in real life. She is honest about when she is meeting them.
  • Free of cheating? Yes
  • Friends. She is my best friend, and once again, my love of my life.


When I have a real moment, I will give a fuller update. Just know, I am a much happier person now. So much happier than I was even months ago, before I know of my wife's affairs. I know someone will point out that we are in a 'Honeymoon Phase' and I would agree. We're bound to have more ups and downs. Its been a rough couple of weeks, but we have talked a lot. About EVERYTHING. And I feel so much closer. I can't believe things ever got as bad as they had, but we are so much closer and stronger now.


Thank you to everyone that offered their support.
 
Sounds like things are going a lot better for you; I'm glad to hear that.
 
Glad to hear things are improving for you. I hope the honesty and better communication continue.

Galagirl
 
Thank you for the update Roose. Every bit of experience posted here helps others with their own struggles.

Leetah
 
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