You are strong not to read on.
I mean, it's ok not to want to make the effort, but it's one more thing she's lied about.
Isn't that just what YOU want now... feeling desired again?
I think you might be supressing anger. I have a lot of practice doing just that
Anger is a healthier emotion then selfblame. Sometimes you need anger to get you out of depression. You do not need to ACT on anger with violence, but FEELING anger and EXPRESSING anger is healthy. Anger leads you towards action, towards wanting to change something, to protect your boundaries - so you can express anger in a constructive way "This and this has made me angry. So I will do _____ and ask you for _____. If this and this repeats, I'm gonna do _______ to protect myself." Actually, expressing anger and hurt as soon as possible is the best way to manage them, otherwise they tend to stick in the system and come out at the least convenient points of time, or turn into self-hate.
Please don't be afraid of anger.
Well... SHE also left YOU feeling undesired for years, didn't she? Pretending no libido? Or, not having it with you? Not making the effort to have both her partners satisfied?I let her feel undesired for years. Sex became a struggle. I was certain my dead bedroom situation stemmed from the fact that I had a low libido partner. I was wrong.
I mean, it's ok not to want to make the effort, but it's one more thing she's lied about.
Isn't that just what YOU want now... feeling desired again?
I think you might be supressing anger. I have a lot of practice doing just that
Anger is a healthier emotion then selfblame. Sometimes you need anger to get you out of depression. You do not need to ACT on anger with violence, but FEELING anger and EXPRESSING anger is healthy. Anger leads you towards action, towards wanting to change something, to protect your boundaries - so you can express anger in a constructive way "This and this has made me angry. So I will do _____ and ask you for _____. If this and this repeats, I'm gonna do _______ to protect myself." Actually, expressing anger and hurt as soon as possible is the best way to manage them, otherwise they tend to stick in the system and come out at the least convenient points of time, or turn into self-hate.
Please don't be afraid of anger.
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