Newmonopolyhusband
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Hi! I’m Anthony & I need a little advice. My husband (Alex) & I have been married for 6 years. We just started opening our hearts and minds to poly about 7 months ago so still pretty new. My husband has been in a committed relationship with his new partner Chris for a few months. He’s a really sweet guy and we are building a friendship/mutual respect (after a rocky start). We are in a V structure, with my husband being the hinge.
So, I took my husband on a date to see his favorite artist last weekend. It was so amazing to see him happy, singing along and just in his element. We’re having a great time singing, drinking and dancing. During one of the slow tempo songs, I look over and see my husband texting Chris (his partner) a video from the concert. This kind of made me feel a little sad, because this was our date night and a night i curated all for the hubby’s pleasure; to see him happy. And him including his partner in our night somewhat took a little bit of joy away from me. It felt like he had to include him (Chris) in everything and we already share so much. Could we have this one experience?
I tried not to overreact and brought it up later about how it made me feel sad, and my husband couldn’t understand. We’ve never really discussed boundaries on date nights (like I said, we’re still new) but idk, I don’t think I’m being too unreasonable here. I wouldn’t want him texting me info from his dates with his partner. How do I get this across to my husband in a way that he can understand?
So, I took my husband on a date to see his favorite artist last weekend. It was so amazing to see him happy, singing along and just in his element. We’re having a great time singing, drinking and dancing. During one of the slow tempo songs, I look over and see my husband texting Chris (his partner) a video from the concert. This kind of made me feel a little sad, because this was our date night and a night i curated all for the hubby’s pleasure; to see him happy. And him including his partner in our night somewhat took a little bit of joy away from me. It felt like he had to include him (Chris) in everything and we already share so much. Could we have this one experience?
I tried not to overreact and brought it up later about how it made me feel sad, and my husband couldn’t understand. We’ve never really discussed boundaries on date nights (like I said, we’re still new) but idk, I don’t think I’m being too unreasonable here. I wouldn’t want him texting me info from his dates with his partner. How do I get this across to my husband in a way that he can understand?