If comments like this "I feel that i am very lucky to have full use of my arms and legs, and my brain, and that i AM able to roller skate." and comments about the marginational police are OK...and sarcasm is "flaming" go ahead kick me off. I want to find a site that backs up disability empowerment in the same way that this would back up gender issues.
Okay this here may be where most of the anxiety of posts comes from. See, everyone reads the same words, but they have different meaning. We understand things based on our own experiences. So you have a lot of experience of being discriminated against because of a disability, that is obviously a hot button for you. So you read much of what people say from that view point.
No ONE view point is better than another! Your discrimination isn't worse than anyone else's! That's the part of empathy everyone needs to try and get to.
You don't like people not taking you seriously and assume it's because of your disability. Meanwhile, you don't take other posters seriously because they don't have children. How is that not the same thing?
I have children, children around the same age as yours, does that make my opinion more valid? Honestly, I don't think so. I was a parent long before I had my own children. Raising siblings, nieces, nephews. So if someone is a caretaker or not, a parent or not, I don't assume their opinion is less valid on how to talk to children than mine! Now, that doesn't mean I always agree either, but it has nothing to do with whether they have kids or not!
Take a breath, take a step back and take ego out of it.
To be fair I so disagree with Boring and NYC a lot on here! I also agree a lot. One thing I do notice is both take ego out of their posts. They aren't fighting to get you to agree with them because they KNOW they are right. They aren't even banging fists and heads at people that disagree with them! They are offering their opinion and at most I see them wanting others to at least acknowledge that their opinion, whether you agree or not, is still valid. Even if it doesn't work for you.
Side Note: As for all the things being discussed. I have three kids ages 12-15. Soon to be 16. (pity me) They have grown up always aware of differences. Whether in sexuality, sex, race, religion, culture, or ability. I don't like lying I don't see the point. There is always a level of truth, it's how much information we give them that changes. I am always proud to hear my kids stand up to other kids for picking on someone for being different. For volunteering to help with the kids in the disabled classes and inviting them to play with their group of 'normal' friends. Let's just say, they have a very fluid idea of normal!
We discussed sex starting around age 5-8. Talks are ongoing and more information added each time. They know about poly, they know I have a boyfriend. I never had to tell them because I never hid it. They saw it go from us just talking to then saying I Love You and the I Love Yous being different from a friend to friend then to a relationship kind of thing. What we DO tell them is how to be respectful and honest, no matter what type of relationship or how many you have. Period. We've even pointed out during shows when people aren't respectful and honest how it goes bad.
We have discussed abortion and yes DH and I are prochoice, but that doesn't mean we are pro abortion. We explain what it is, and all of that, and go over what to do in situations. How to avoid ones you don't want and then deal with them when they arise. A great movie to show is on netflix called Rain Without Thunder. It's a documentary style of a world where abortion is illegal and the consequences of that on women. Yeah, my kids have watched it. They watched it with me.